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Beginner September 2022 Lothian & Borders

Bridesmaids - Help!!

Firstweddingbath1601, 23 December, 2021 at 14:05 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 5
Hi there, I need some advice on bridesmaids and I’ve been worrying so much about to what to do.


I am getting married in June 2023 so I still have time! I have asked my sister to be my maid of honour, she is incredible and I couldn’t imagine anyone else doing it. I’m debating if I should just have my sister or my some of my friends also, I have 6 people I could choose from. However, I’d find it very hard to choose and I’m also worried about upsetting people, pre drama, and rushing in the morning. I love my friends and they are great friends, however after seeing my sister and mum get married I know how stressful it can be having a semi big wedding party.
My question is, if I only have my sister will I regret it? We have the budget to have more bridesmaids and I’m worried that I will miss out on having my friends with my the night before and that photos will look odd (my fiancé is having 2 ushers and one best man). We are having a 70 person wedding in the day and 100 in the evening.
I also don’t know how much help I will need as my sister and mum will help me a lot on the day. I’d like to know people’s experience from having one bridesmaid (especially if it’s just family). Did you regret? Were there things you missed? Or did it save a lot or hassle and stress? Or make more stress in fact?
I’m quite an anxious person so I would like the process to be as stress free as possible and for the morning to be quite intimate. Any advice/experience would be really helpful!!

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Latest activity by HappyGoldBridesmaid18836, 28 December, 2021 at 02:27
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    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
    Charlotte ·
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    I have a MOH and one adult BM. I am anxious like you a dnfeelnhavung more will just stress me out and will be too much on the morning. At the end of the day it is your choice but if I were you and from what you have said I would maybe ask 2 others, you could ask the other 4 to do readings if you want to include them. There are some readings that can be done by 2 people and then the other 3 maybe as your witnesses. As hard as it is try not to worry about pleasing others it is your day and you need to be comfortable, no one should make you feel bad for your decisions
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
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    Photos won't look odd however many bridesmaids you have. And you can always spend some time together pre-wedding with your friends even if they aren't your bridesmaids.

    Pick the people you want to be involved on your wedding day. If you don't want half a dozen bridesmaids, then it's fine to involve them in other ways (readings, being a witness, handing out orders of service etc) or just have them as honoured guests.

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    Beginner September 2022 Lothian & Borders
    Firstweddingbath1601 ·
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    Thank you Charlotte!! So helpful and has really helped me come to a decision. You’re so right that I need to be comfortable and no one should make me feel bad for my decisions! ♥️
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    Savvy July 2022 Bristol
    Laura ·
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    My other half and his mum kept on at me to have his sister as bridesmaid and I was adamant I didn't want one. I am having no bridesmaids at all and I'm happy with that. I having my mum and her best friend helping me and my friend who is staying at the venue the night before and his sister is doing a reading. It is your day and you need to be happy.
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    Dedicated May 2022
    HappyGoldBridesmaid18836 ·
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    It won’t look odd in photographs if you just have your sister. I’m not having bridesmaids at all. I have a lot of good friends and couldn’t decide between them, plus I didn’t want the hassle. I think your friends will just be happy to be present at your wedding. X
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