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Bridesmaids (or, lack of!)

Lisa, 8 January, 2026 at 15:05 Posted on Planning 0 1

Hello Everyone!

My fiance and I are in the process of planning our wedding for 2028 after getting engaged on New Years Day.

We've been discussing a few details, one of which is the subject of Best Man, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids etc. and who we would want to ask. He has asked his childhood best friend to be his Best Man and other people from his friend group since he was in school to be his Groomsmen, he also has 2 sons who will be our Ushers. In total, he will have 9 people standing with him which is fine, they have all married and were all best men/groomsmen for each other's weddings.

Here's my problem...

I genuinely don't have a clue who I can ask to be my Bridesmaid(s)!! I have a very small circle of friends who I'm close with but not will-you-be-my-bridesmaid close. My childhood best friends all moved away to University and we have drifted apart over the years. I have one good friend that I can ask and I know she will say yes but I'm worried I will look stupid on our Wedding when he has all these Groomsmen and I just have one Bridesmaid! I don't want to ask anyone for the sake of it but I'm worried it's going to look like I don't have any friends! I could potentially ask his Sister as we are a similar age and get on very well but again, we are not close and only really hang out when he's home on leave.

It's something that's worrying me a lot, when I was younger and my friend group was much larger I thought I'd have an army of bridesmaids but as I've gotten older and learnt that people drift apart etc. my circle has gradually gotten smaller and smaller.

Has anyone else had a similar issue, if so, any advice, please?

Thank you all so much in advance from a very excited but nervous bride to be!

Lisa xxx

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Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 11 January, 2026 at 23:31
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    I've been to weddings over the years that have had all kinds of combinations in the bridal party - no bridesmaids and lots of groomsmen/ushers or the other way round, lots of each or none of each. It really doesn't matter. If you're worried about the seating looking odd, then I'd have the best man and the sons at the front and the groomsmen at the back, perhaps to welcome guests as they arrive. That way, there won't be a huge row of them at the front. But I certainly wouldn't ask extra people just to make up the numbers on your side.

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