Bridesmaids- to have or not to have?

I had similar problem I really want my little sister as MOH but have 2 older sisters that I’m not that as close with I also have a sister in law who I was bridesmaid for a couple years ago. In the end I decided to just have my younger sister and best friend as otherwise it was just going to get silly expensive! One idea is to include some of them by asking them to be your witnesses instead? At the end of the day it’s your day and should go with what you feel most happy with that’s what I did and just have to hope and pray nobody is hurt or offended good luck! x

My husband had his best friend as best man at his wedding, while I didn't have any bridesmaids. No one seemed to think it was odd at all.

My friend had her 5 best friends as bridesmaids but her groom didn’t have anyone. It didn’t look odd at all. Do what makes you happy.

Thanks everyone. The consensus is do what makes me happy. Just needed a sounding board.

Hello,

I cannot stress enough, that it is yours and your fiances day. If you do not want bridesmaids then dont have them, it will look fine but if you choose to have them, then its your choice again who you have. True friends will understand and if you are closer to friends than sisters then your sisters will understand also. YOUR DAY your way. Hope you have a lovely wedding all the best

Hi! I had kind of the same situation. I never wanted bridesmaids. My other half is having 2 best men. My other has a sister and his mum though I would ask her to be my bridesmaid. Me and my other half had a massive argument and in the end he came round. Instead we are going to give his sister stuff to do through out the day. If you don't want bridesmaids don't feel you have to. There are plenty of jobs your friends can do. Let them give a reading and the ceremony it they can do a joint speach xx

If you're relationship with your sisters is strained, don't feel pressured to have them as bridesmaids. I have multiple siblings but only 1 is a bridesmaid. How can they all expect an invite if we don't talk of get along?


With my bridesmaids i kept it to 2, to also keep costs down. Im hoping we can have an honest conversation about them purchasing their own dresses. I doubt we'll get traditional bridesmaids dresses as they're expensive, and ASOS have more affordable options. Im sure they already have shoes and accessories they can wear. I hope we can do a zoom meeting were we do some online searching for things they would want to wear.
We are going to be paying for the onsite accommodation so feel its fair that they chip in too.
At the end of the day, this is your wedding and you do what you want to do. Think of how you will look back on the day. Don't make choices just to please others. Be selfish.

View quoted message Weddings can definitely test friendships and relationships. Your ideas sound pretty reasonable to me and ASOS do have some lovely dresses, even if you all can't agree you could pick a colour theme for everyone to wear.
I've decided not to have bridesmaids as it's just not something I have the energy to organise (we're also going through IVF) so money, time and energy are precious at the moment.
Hope the virtual dress shopping goes well xx