My brother is getting married in April. We've always been close even though he lives in another country now. At my wedding 5 years ago, he did a reading and walked one of my bridesmaids down the aisle. For his wedding, I have not been asked to do anything. My toddler son is a page boy, and my husband has just been asked to be a groomsman after someone else dropped out. My sister in law (husband's sister) has been asked to do a reading as well as my mother. I'm honestly a bit hurt not to have been given any job, but it's his wedding so I've obviously kept my feelings to myself.
My brother and his fiancee have just shared the first draft of the seating chart with my mother for her input. My parents and husband are at the top table with the rest of the wedding party. The bride's brothers are also at the top table, so I am the only immediate family not at the top table, but what has really upset me is that I've been placed at table 11. There are 11 tables in total on the plan. I'm with a few aunts and uncles. Where I am from, close family are at the top few tables 2, 3 onwards and the tables near the end are for friends and extended family you don't see much.
My mother has said my brother is just an idiot that hasn't thought it through, and maybe things are different in the country they live in where the bride is from (they are getting married in our home country though).
Am I overthinking this or am I right to be a bit upset? Would appreciate advice.