Budget Worries

First of all, I'd ask your parents how much they are planning on contributing. It's not as if you are begging for money - they've said they want to give you something. So just explain that you are working out a budget and that it would help to know what you can expect from them.

Second, weddings really don't have to be that expensive! One of my friends has just offered to make our cake as her gift to us, but before that, I was looking at a £16 supermarket one! Flowers - again, if you can't afford to get a florist bouquet, just buy a bunch from a supermarket - Tesco do some fab ones for around £5 and if you took the wrapping off and tied a ribbon round the stems, no one would ever know.

As for bridesmaids, why not ask the girls you'd like to have if they would be willing to be your bridesmaids in dresses they choose and pay for themselves. Do you have any friends who are great at hair and makeup who could help? Or people who are great at catering who could contribute something toward your reception as their gift to you?

Have a girls' night in with DVDs and takeaway for your hen do. Or play silly board games. Or go for a 'get in shape for the wedding' walk and a coffee. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. Hire a local community hall for your wedding reception and get people to contribute food, decorations etc as their wedding gift.

As for the relatives who won't come unless it's a 'proper' wedding - are they coming to support you or to enjoy an expensive party? Because you want people around you who will support you in this huge commitment you are making, and to be honest, they don't sound that supportive. In your place, I'd scrap guests with attitude like this and invite some REAL friends!

Personally speaking I’m of the opinion that if you can’t afford to do it the way you want to do it then don’t do it until you can afford it.