Button Holes

I personally wont be having any....

I dont like them they remind me of funerals. (weird i know)

at the end of the day it is up to you!

We're only having them for the main protagonists! !

Groom

Best man

Ushers

Pageboys

Fathers and my mum

Your wedding, your way x

Thank you. I've got some friends on Facebook who had been in a lot of weddings this year, so I've mooched through their photos and none of them seem to be wearing button holes? Is it just me, or do you think they're an outdated tradition? I was going to get them for just the parents after my Mum said it would look cheap, but it spirals then as I'll get "what about the siblings? And your grandparents" and I'll end up getting them for everyone then, but I can't afford to buy them all. X

If you really needed to get them to keep your family happy look on ebay...

admittedly theyre not real but they look fantastic and theyre like £1 each...

im having mine and my BM flowers from Ebay as real flowers just die...

hope this helps x

It does thank you. I'll have a mooch now on eBay x

Not a problem

good luck x

I'm a florist and get asked this question many times. The general rule regarding buttonholes is one for the Groom, Best Man, Father of the Bride, Father of the Groom and any ushers/groomsmen if you are having them. The Groom has one slightly more elaborate than the rest of the above so he stands out as being the Groom on the photographs and also to any guests who might not have met him yet!

The Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom, generally speaking, have corsages - either lapel to pin on to a dress or jacket or wrist. More oft than not, it's a lapel as wrist corsages can only really be worn with either three quarter, short or sleeveless outfits. In reality, wrist corsages are more popular for bridesmaids than Mums though.

Anyone other than the above mentioned wouldn't normally be provided with one nowadays. Yes, in years gone by (and I've been in the trade for 22 years and I'm talking before my time as a florist) everyone was given a buttonhole but this isn't the done thing anymore. However, it's like most things, it's down to personal choice and budget. Unless you have diligent ushers at the church door or at the venue entrance handing out buttonholes to everyone as they arrive, they tend to get left in the box as people don't like to take one because they won't realise they are for them resulting in a waste of flowers and money,

Any guest who REALLY wants to wear a buttonhole to a wedding will not expect to have one provided and will buy their own. Men really don't like wearing buttonholes anyway and women prefer to have one to match their outfit that they have chosen rather than wear one that someone else has provided. If you do provide them for everyone, then they should in theory be of a neutral colour to avoid colour clashes with guests outfits.

Hope this helps.

I've just got them for groom, best man, ushers and fathers. And for mums and grandmother (neither of us have any grandfather still with us ?)

To be fair I would have just got them for our mums but I know my nan would have something to say so thought I'd better just avoid that!

I've know know anyone to give button holes for all the guest since I was a kid.

But just like everyone has said, it's totally upto you, and your budget! It's your wedding nobody else's! ?

We're having groom, best man, usher, my dad, his mum, his two sisters and a partner, my brother, my sisters partner. For my mum she's have a wrist corsage she has dialysis and will be having it the morning of the wedding so it's really for her to cover her dressing as she was getting a long sleeved top to cover it. My sister is also having a wrist corsage so my mum doesn't feel like the only one.

I agree with others, only bridal party/parents.

In Scotland, when a man wears a kilt, he usually wears a heather buttonhole. If MF is going to a wedding wearing a kilt I'll get him one. If he's wearing a suit, we don't bother with anything (no male guests do TBH). I remember when I was 18, having a fight with my mum over the fact I wouldn't wear a corsage to a wedding, she insisted it would be totally shameful not to! It's a bit outdated now....

We've actually only organised heather for the groom, best man, and my brother who is giving me away. My mum is getting a corsage which will be pinned to her handbag. The mother and father of the groom can sort themselves out, if they so wish.

Thank you all for replying. I've been looking on eBay for just some cream/ivory plain button holes. But my fiancé and my sister think I shouldn't let what my Mum thinks dictate what I do on our day. I've not acted on anything yet. I was more hurt about the fact that she thinks it'll look cheap. I'm not her friend lol. X