Buttonholes? Are you having them for all guests!?

I think you're right hun. I said to my Mum that it did make sense but she wasn't having any of it-she's paying for the flowers so insisted on buttonholes. I suppose its their generation! xx

We are having them for every 1 as my mum was like yours and thinks it is bad not to

We're just having them for the wedding party...this is actually a tradition I hadnt heard of but I don't have any grandparents left so maybe it would have been a different story with my nana around!

Were having them for just bridal party and grandparents.

I originally just wanted them for the wedding party. However, at my brother's wedding a couple of years ago a lot of our extended family bought their own buttonholes and they didn't match.....so as we're only have a small wedding I am buying enough for everyone.

I've never been to a wedding where everyone has been given a buttonhole - I thought it was just the bridal party that got them.

As we're expecting over 100 guests, we certainly won't be spending out for everyone to have a buttonhole.

I am probably your mum's "generation" and no way would I ever do buttonholes for everyone, nor have I ever seen this done. One for the groom and that's it!

Glad someone else is having the same. My Mum and Nana were very insistent that we must have buttonholes. Although the guest list is at about 75, they are mostly all family because H2B has a large family, so I think it's right for them to have buttonholes. I think it will be nice for everyone to have them. xxx

Yeah I think you're right about that one. Our Ushers will be giving them to guests as they come into the church to take their seats x

I've been to quite a few weddings over the years and have actually only been to one where buttonholes were given to all guests. Some weddings, even the groom hasn't had a buttonhole.

We'd spoken with our families and they were happy for us to just order my bouquet, bridesmaid bouquet (we're re using the artificial flowers my daughter had as bridesmaid for my sister last summer, we're having white roses too so they match in) and then just buttonholes for the men in the bridal party. So, my h2b, best man, groom's father, my father, my sister's husband & h2b's sister's husband. None of the women day guests wanted them, but now h2b's family have decided they DO want them. My side don't so we've said that if you want them, you order & pay for your own. Everyone has agreed they are ok with that. It's whatever suits you really. I have heard from friends/family that when people have ordered buttonholes for everyone, they haven't all been worn/used, so i guess it's dependant on whether you feel you can afford to spend money on something that may not be used by everyone.

I agree that it is definitely a lot of money to pay out on buttonholes that may not get worn. If we were paying for them ourselves I doubt very much that we would have been having them for each guest, but as my Mother is paying for the flowers and wanted them I don't see the need to upset her by telling her not to bother.

I think you're idea about getting them to order their own if they want one is a very good one. x

We are ordering for my side of the family and the men in the bridal party. Ohs mum wants to sort her own out as she thinks she can get it all cheaper somewhere else so she is sorting her parents out too. I have no Grandparents left

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Never been to a wedding where all guests had buttonholes. We are just having the groomsmen (Groom, Best Man, Dad, FIL and Grandad) and MOB and MIL will wear corsages. Makes the bridal party stand out more too.

In my 30's and have NEVER been to a wedding either in UK, Scotland or Australia where every person gets a buttonhole! We are having for the wedding party and my 90yr old nan only. I can see men in particular not wearing them and being left with wasted money.

I am so glad i am not the only one doing button holes for the adults we decided we give kids a packet of sweets so keeps them happy during the ceromony.

We're having them for everyone - I just assumed it would be for the bridal party, but Mum said she would like everyone to have them "like when we got married" (30 years ago). We're not having a massive number of people so it doens't work out that expensive for us.

Same here! My mum said the same thing "like when i got married". She was willing to pay for them so I wasnt going to stop her, and I think it will be a nice extra touch.

From the looks of your signature it looks like you are getting married the same day as me! 1st October? x

We are having them for everyone too! We decided to do this for one main reason: there are marriage splits in the family and oh mum and dad have both got remarried but his dad has only been back in his life for 2 years. It was getting really difficult to decide who was gonna have button holes and corsages as we wanted to include the grandparents in this too but it worked out we have around 20 people in the bridal party if we included everyone. Therefore we have gone for avalanche rose button holes for oh, bm and ushers and corsages for the mums and everyone else will have small akito rose button holes. My florist was really good and has done the small button holes at £2 each which I thought was very reasonable and as we only have 50 guests it hasn't cost too much extra

We're having one just for H2B xx

Yep, I'm a 1st Oct bride, too :o) (there's quite a few of us on here now!)

Me three

We are having them for all the family including the children in the family. I would like them for all of the guests and am a bit dissappointed but at £4.50 each it isn't feasible.

Hadnt occured to me, but if it had i would have decided no, as it would cost a fortune!

I would say just the wedding party! mine is a bit complicated but, the 2 mum's have corsages, then we have buttonholes for:

Groom

Best man

2 ushers

my 2 brothers who are both giving me away

my god father who is giving the 'god father of the bride' speach!

JUST having button holes for groom< best man and ushers and the dads> maybe corsages for the mums> there would be an awfull lot of flowers if everyone had one!