Cancellation

You're worried that cancelling the wedding means your relationship is over?

Look at it this way - if your relationship isn't going to last, then getting married isn't going to keep you together, it's just going to make splitting up a lot more complicated and expensive.

What IS going to increase your chances of the relationship working is not sticking your head in the sand and hoping that the problems go away but actually facing up to them and working on them. And pushing ahead with an expensive wedding is a great way to increase both stress and financial difficulties.

Do you have any wedding-related decisions/payments etc that need dealing with in the next week or two? If you don't, and you won't lose any more money if you cancel in a month's time than if you cancel now, then I would just privately press 'pause' on the planning while you talk things through. If anyone asks about wedding plans meanwhile, just tell them that you're taking a break from the planning for a couple of weeks.

I don't know what your specific issues are, but I would suggest looking at pre-marital counselling/couples counselling to work through them. You may find that this is enough to resolve your concerns, but if not, please don't proceed with the wedding until you have sorted it out. A postponed or cancelled wedding is not nearly as traumatic as a divorce!

If you are able to resolve your relationship issues but feel the wedding itself is causing too much stress/cost then just dial back on the celebrations. A cheap and simple wedding can still be beautiful.

If you really need to make a decision quickly, then I would suggest 'postponing' the wedding. 'Cancelling' will tend to get everyone rushing round discussing and wondering and speculating. 'Postponing' is a less dramatic word and you then have all the time you need to decide whether the postponement is permanent or not.

Wishing you all the best as you work through this x

As you've both expressed concerns then the only right thing to do is postpone. As commented above, it really doesn't need to mean the end of your relationship. Being aware and wanting to work through issues is a mature and brave decision.
Good Luck with whichever path you and your partner choose. Just be true to yourselves and honest with each other. You may well come out the other side stronger! xx