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Catering reception yourself

Sonia, 1 November, 2021 at 16:45 Posted on Planning 0 5

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My fiancee likes the idea of catering our reception himself as he used to be a chef. It wouldn't be a sit down meal, more buffet type food. My concerns are the time it will all take, storing the food that is prepared before the day and transporting it on the day plus the setting up and packing away! I think it seems hugely stressful but he doesn't like the idea of just paying others to do something he feels he can do. He also wants about 100 guests so not exactly a small do. I'm actually struggling to find a venue that would allow us to cater ourselves that isn't a village hall type place, which isn't what I want. Ideally he wants somewhere that would let him use the kitchen but I can't find that at all. He even said about cooking a BBQ at his own wedding, which I did say no to as what's the point as all he'll be doing is cooking!

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Latest activity by Hayley, 2 November, 2021 at 04:00

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Sonia · 1 November, 2021 at 16:46
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I meant to add, has anyone actually done this themselves, or planning to or been to a wedding where they have?
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RomanticGreenStationery27135 · 1 November, 2021 at 18:01
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The closest I've ever seen to this was a wedding where the couple coordinated the food and local people chipped in, bringing various items for the buffet. They had a great time but a) it was a very laid-back wedding in a village hall, b) they only had around 60 guests and c) most of the guests mucked in to help.
I understand your fiance finding it hard to 'let go' of the catering but he really needs to think about whether he wants to be spending most of his wedding day in the kitchen! Does he really want to be 'working' on his wedding day?
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Charlotte · 1 November, 2021 at 18:38
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The thought of this stressese out! Honestly I couldn't cope with it, regardless of his skills as a chef, it is a massive effort to cater a wedding and for 100 people this would need a lot of people Involved to support it. I see his reasoning but to me it is your wedding day, why would you want to put yourself under all that pressure and you would barely see him to enjoy your day. Could you maybe look at hiring food trucks and work with them for him to create a signaturemenu so is bespoke to you? I wish you the best trying to change his mind!
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Sonia · 2 November, 2021 at 00:05
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Thank you. I am hoping that me pointing a few things out will make him rethink, he is good at taking things on board when there may be things he hadn't considered. The practicalities of him wanting to do this is making me feel stressed despite him saying I wouldn't have to do anything.
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Hayley · 2 November, 2021 at 04:00
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My partner also had this idea, I dont think it's the best idea because instead of focusing on it being both of you day. He will be more focused on the food being perfect. And then rather then going home/to a hotel to spend your first night as a married couple together straight after the nights over one of you will have to stay back to clear up.

Obviously if both you and your partner think it's a good idea the theres no reason not to. No matter who caters it's still going to be a special day.
But talk to each other and make sure its 100% the best thing for your special day and of course congratulations.
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