This has been on going for a while....We spoke to the Deacon at h2b local parish about a year ago about getting married in a non catholic church we were told that h2b had to be confirmed and we had to attend marriage prep classes before we could write to him. So with no help from the church about what to write, or where to send it we finally wrote the letter in July. I chased it up after a few weeks of hearing nothing and the Deacon eventually pointed out the Bishop was on holiday. So we heard back yesterday it was a very vague letter and it made me very upset. Firstly it was only addressed to h2b even though out letter was sent from both of us. It went on about what could be more important than getting married in the church where h2b was confimed and that the Bishop could not even remember me attending (which I did, ironically he was not there as he was ill and not in the country). H2b is hopefully emailing them today about why we want to get married in a non catholic church but have an catholic priest officate we felt it was kinda the best of both worlds as the location of the church means so much to both of us.
I feel hurt by the catholic church, I feel that they think we have not fully thought this through and actually don't want to marry us, I feel that what we want does not matter to them at all, I worry that if they do say no we won't find anyone to officate as we get married in October and we don't have much time to find someone else and yes the invitations have been sent out. I wonder if they do grant us permission how am I going to feel standing at the alter when a priest who has upset me so much is marrying us.
I know there is not much I can do until we hear back from them again. But I can't help feeling upset about it. H2b keeps telling me not to stress as they have not actually said no, but I think it doesn't look good.
