Hi everyone! Newly engaged and starting to plan our wedding. I want to be married in my childhood church which is catholic I have spoken to the priest who is happy to marry us.
My OH is not religious (but is baptised) and is not comfortable with an overly religious ceremony. He knows I am catholic and went to church when I was younger and also that since I lost my father I have struggled in church without becoming overly emotional and so I have not been practising since we met. He also knows I am a feminist and passionate about equality and so does pick up on some discrepancy between my personal beliefs and behaviours and my religion..
He is willing to marry in a church but only if the service is not overly religious because he is not religious and neither us his side of the guest list with which I completely empathise (e.g numerous hymns, gospel readings and prayer). I am confident we can customise the service to a point (ie. I think only one religious reading is required as long as it explicitly mentions marriage), but wanted to know if anyone has similar experiences, conversations or considerations? How bare bones can the religious element be?
Thank you!
