CBA...

It get's easier I promise - have a complete break from it and you'll get your wedding mojo back. I think it is normal tbh - I certainly went through a phase of thinking "I wish we'd got married in 3 months" because we were so fed up of all the planning.

Hang in there - it is worth it on the day

Trust me you do get over it, with 10 months to go (just after xmas) I lost my Mojo, didn't do anything, plan anything wanna even think about it... went into denial about how soon it was at about 4 months... Now with 18 (b00dy hell!) days to go, we're pretty much done and everything fell into place in the last 6 weeks ish.

x

Don't worry about feeling like you can't be bothered. We all go through phases of it. I was feeling that way a couple of weeks ago because i was tired of OH not doing anything to help with the wedding. I had started to feel like 'why should i bother if he won't'

But don't worry about it. If you've been doing a lot of wedding related things, then you could always take a weekend off and go do something fun, just you and your OH that's nothing to do with Weddings. I've found it does help!

Thanks guys but we have literally done nothing weddingy in ages apart from me idly buy some shoes online and then looking at 1 suit shop this weekend... Him trying 1 jacket only before we were like 'nah stuff it'. He went to the same place as my dress shop, my dress (sample) was hanging there and I showed the woman so she could match shirt colours and that was it! I didn't even feel excited seeing THE dress again. I know it is the right one and am over my wobbles, but didn't even get any butterflies or anything.

Hmm. Gonna ignore it all for another few weeks!

Just sounds to me like you want to be married but not overly concerned about the wedding? Which is cool - there is no rule that you have to be bothered about these things. I have never had butterflies over any dress and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Are you having a big wedding?

Weddings can be overwhelming, and we certainly had some "CBA" moments too.

We found that, many months ahead of the wedding, there were only so many things we could do that far in advance, and there were peaks and lulls in our planning, so I think what you're experiencing is perfectly normal.

We found a lot needed to be done about the 9 month stage, which you'll hit soon. There's some things like photographer that you need to book well in advance, other things like picking favours you don't need to do so far in advance.

Thanks aj. We've got all the main stuff booked and have had it sorted for ages, deposits paid and confirmations sorted. I was ultra organised before we had hit 12 months, then we gave notice and I figured I would get back on with it all and now just don't really care too much. Your slideshow was lovely btw, and the version of Canon was beautiful.

I think it's because I did used to feel very excited about going to try on my dress again (in Jan) that when we randomly went on Sunday and I felt nothing it is weird!

I don't class our wedding as 'big' really - the venue wasn't the cheapest around, we are probably having 60 people day and about 100-120 evening, so compared to some that is tiny!

When I think about the guest list, invites and stuff I just feel so unenthused... at the moment I feel like, let everyone sit wherever they want whereas just after getting engaged we had a draft seating plan and guest list ready within minutes!

I suppose the mojo will come back, probably taking a back seat while I get busy with other parts of my life. I think after being so organised so far ahead, it just feels odd not to be more enthusiastic about the next bits!