chasing up RSVP

Probably not the answer you're looking for but you need to be pushy!! Just tell them that you need to know whether they will be coming as if they can't you need to invite other people to take their place as you've already paid for their meals (that sounded better in my head than it does in writing!!) Make sure you say to them that it's not a problem if they can't come, you won't be offended you just need to know.

I think people who don't respond to RSVP's are really rude!! x

Just contact them and say the hotel are needing a confirmation soon on numbers for the meal so could we possibly have a confirmation that X is coming with you, by thisdateplease.

If they still dont respond then you'll have to explain that a meal wont be provided for their partners, and that will be awkward... you dont need to tell anyone that you are inviting someone else in their place....

Oh, I like that.

Also, what do think the etiquette on when couples have split up. SIL and her OH have split up and are still friends and he still wants to come to the wedding (personally Im not fussed on him being there as he is annoying - however, he was on original invite) OH and I are divided - I say he should be uninvited as he was only invited because he was with OHs sister. But OH thinks because his sister and now-ex get on its fine for him to come. I think thats rubbish, just becuase they WERE together doesnt mean they should still go everywhere together...

I would say you need to be pushy and tell them to give you an answer now!!!

We had to be brutal and say if they hadn't replied by the rsvp date then they weren't coming! We had decided that we weren't going to mess about and would make the decision for them that they couldn't come.

It is your wedding date and I had the opinion that if they couldn't be bothered to RSVP then I didn't want them there! It only happened with one person... so we were quite lucky.

If they get on you can always invite them, they dont need to be sitting together at the meal either...... put them on seperate tables as they might get embarrassed when guests start assuming they are a couple.

I agree with being pushy and blunt!

Some people don't think about why you need a reply a while before the wedding as they don't know what's involved in the whole wedding planning business.