Ok, first of all I know I can't or want to interfer with someones life plans but I need your opinions as i'm fuming inside and don't want to fall out with her.
she has a 3 year old and wants another, wasn't going to have one for a while but is now saying wants to get on in before my wedding in June 2013. She is my cheif bridesmaid and organising hen and wedding stuff. You may think my thinking is premature but it's stressing me out! She's not pregnant yet but wants to start trying this month thinking as she caught last time will catch quickly this time ie June for it to be born March 13. Pie in the sky dates as far as im concerned but that's what she's working on.
Had a conversation with best mates talking about hen ideas etc for May 13 and sad i'd love to go abroad "I cant do that as ill have an 8 week old baby and i'm not prepared to leave it, not fair, what if something was wrong etc" "theres plenty of other things we can do etc"!
I feel like already MY wedding.hen is being worked around her pregnancy plans. Now lets say she doesnt catch straight away and we're into July/August giving a due date of ....MY WEDDING! so potentially missing my hen do and wedding or has a newborn and selfihsly im thinking she's my chief and i need her there for me on the day, over the wedding weekend etc.
So, what do i do? I'm feeling like if babies are the priority then she cant be my Chief (this is my best mate though!) and she either waits and puts 100% into this or gets pregnant now and it'll be a few months old....but again I cant say to her if you arn't pregnant by July are you going to leave it?! can i??
We've talked briefly about this but not since we talked about the hen do and I cant go abraod cos she has a baby!! I dont want to argue with her and it come out wrong as it often does with me! i'm not sure whats worse her being pregnant and not being able to drink, ready to drop and the risk of her missing it all or having a newborn and not being there for me!?!!
So hence why i'm posting as i need impartial views. I dont think ? im being a bridezilla but just feel like one or the other needs to be a priority. she's always told me shes my chief as i was hers and wants to do all the organising and says even with a baby things wont change but it's stressing me out!
Help!! x
