chief bridesmaid!! rant!! sorry

Have you asked her why she isn't interested or why she isn't coming to your hen? Personally, if it was me I'd tell her I didn't want her as a bridesmaid at all if she's not going to want to help. What's the point in bridesmaids otherwise?! She should be honoured that you've asked her (and especially that you have asked her over family) and IMO, as your chief bridesmaid it is her job to help you with all the little things. I don't know what I'd do without my MOH's advice. Definitely have it out with her, I'd tell her to buck up her ideas or step out!

She only seems interested when its about her and when we go shopping for something for her!! she said other day she had been out to get a couple of bits for hen night so i asked her today what she had got so i didnt buy the same and she said she hadnt got anything!! left it at that then got a text saying she werent coming!!

i think she should deffo step up a bit cos when we went shopping for my dress she didnt even say anything, i dont expect her to tell me that i look like a princess when i look like a witch lol, but even so some sort of input would be grt, i picked her cos i live away from my family and thought it would be grt having my best friend to help!! how wrong am i!! ☹️

That's really sad. Your MOH should be someone you can enjoy all this stuff with, not someone who is leaving you more stressed out and with more to do! All of my bridesmaids are having input, it's a much nicer process for it!

I'm with Claire! It is an honour to be asked to be bridesmaid. I understand that some people are not always in the postition to help out as much as we may like, but she could be doing something! It might be worth checking if she has any money worries though as that could be putting her off coming on the hen do etc. Whatever happens though, I think you need to have a chat with her and work out if there are underlying circumstances. If it is just that she can't be bothered, then I think you are within your rights to sack her but check first in case there are other issues!

Sounds to me like she is being highly immature, just have it out with her and take it from there. She might not want to be your CB. I hope you get to the bottom of it and come to a decision that you are happy with. Always remember that it is you getting married and not your bridemaids, they are never going to be as excited about your wedding as you are.

So many hitchers have had problems with MOH/CB and bridesmaids!

I'd have a chat to her and see how that goes, find out if there is something bothering her maybe. If she is just being a pain then get rid, you don't need that added pressure!

Good Luck

T xx

Hi thanks all

i know she had no money worries cos she has paid for her weekend away with me, and was over the moon and started crying when i asked her to be CB, i have spent all day worrying about wat i may have done and honestly cant think of anything!!, i will contact her this eve when she finishes work to see wats going on ☹️

Oh my gosh some people...id be so honoured if i was asked to be CB but dont understand her problem unless its jealousy....but in my opinion id tell her not to bother to be your bridesmaid as im sure your sisters or neices would do a much better job....

hope you realise soon what you want to do....at the end of the day its going to be getting more stressful nearer to the day and you will need someone you can rely on so you need to ask yourself is that is she someone you can rely on.

xx

My OH thinks its down to jealousy as me and CB both started on a diet at the same time and i have lost 24 pound shes lost 7 pound and wasnt happy when she found out that the dress size i was having was 2 sizes smaller than hers, cos she made a comment about that at the time!!