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Beginner August 2023 Central & Glasgow

Chief bridesmaid troubles

Elaine, 16 September, 2022 at 12:29 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 3
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Hi, looking for some advice…
I have three bridesmaids chosen for my wedding next year. My best friend, my SIL and my daughter. My best friend is my chief bridesmaid and is showing less and less interest and trying to make the day about her.
I have been pretty organised with dresses for both myself and bridesmaids and backs of dresses are open and relatively similar which I was looking forward to getting pictures of the back of us and other candid pictures. I am in the process of having 2 small tattoos removed and my CB has taken it upon herself to decide and go ahead with a large back tattoo on her shoulder blade, forearm and talks of a sleeve!! She has also slept with my best man and hinting heavily at her daughter being a flower girl.
We have to go back in December for another fitting as my daughter is 13 and unsure how she’ll be developing so best to wait until then to order dresses. My CB is on her 5th boyfriend in a year and has went off the radar so I’m even questioning whether to have her as a bridesmaid.
Help please xx

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Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 18 September, 2022 at 22:03
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    Dedicated April 2024 West Yorkshire
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    Are you getting your tattoos removed because you don't like them or just so that they're not in photos? What's the big deal with her getting a tattoo that you'd be able to see? Did she sleep with the best man before or after you asked her to be CB? I understand the frustration if she's hinting at her daughter being flower girl but unless she's asked directly I wouldn't worry about that, and if she does ask directly and you don't want her to be flower girl just explain you've already chosen your party.

    I think a lot of people (not directed at you) expect their bridesmaids to change for the wedding, whether that be behaviour or appearance, and it's not really fair. You asked her to be your CB for a reason, I'm not sure why a tattoo would change that xx

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    She has multiple tattoos else where and she’s never wanted tattoos showing before. Now that dresses have been picked and she knew what the photos were going to be it just seems a bit bold. If she had the tattoos first, I’d still have asked her, I just would have chosen a different style of dress. I guess there’s still time to possibly change her dress.
    I’m getting mine removed because they are older tattoos and have bled into the skin and just look unsightly so wanted rid to not take away from the elegance of my dress.
    She’s recently slept with the best man so after being asked to be CB xx
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    I wouldn't change the dress - it smacks too much of policing how you expect your bridesmaid to look. You say she has lots of tattoos, so it's not like this is a dramatic departure from her normal behaviour.

    Regarding her relationship with the best man - would you be disapproving if he were not best man? If not, then I don't think his being best man has any relevance.

    I'm not sure I'd say that hinting her daughter could be flower girl is trying to make the wedding 'all about her' - are there other things she has been doing to cause a problem?

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