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Beginner June 2022 South West London

Children at wedding

Adam, 16 November, 2021 at 08:56 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 4

Hi, we have invited children to our wedding for our close friends (bridesmaids) and family. We don't really like the idea of having crying children through our ceremony though. Is there any way we could have a polite conversation with our friends/family to say 'if the child does cry during the ceremony is there any way your husband could pop out with the child until they are calm?'. What are peoples suggestions and experience?

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Latest activity by Kay, 19 August, 2022 at 08:08
  • Louise
    Rockstar March 2022 Devon
    Louise ·
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    What age ranges r they children? I think u will find that it would only be the really young ones that may cry (or if u know if any r really clingy!), ceremonies don't really last that long and I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem. If they r families or friends they would understand u wanting it to be dealt with quickly. Fingers crossed this is unnecessary planning though and it all goes smoothly!
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    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
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    I think they way you have put it is exactly the way to say it. My brother had a no children rule but one of their friends turned up with their 3 month old baby, who then proceeded to cry right at the pivotal moment and through the vows as the girl didn't leave, even though she was sat right at the back of the church. it did put a tinge on the day as we couldn't hear them speaking their vows so I think it is fair to have the conversation and ask them to sit on the end of an aisle so they can nip out if needs be. I am sure they will understand, I would be mortified if my child cried or played up during the ceremony.

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  • Jane
    Dedicated June 2022 Bristol
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    I agree with Charlotte - have the conversation as you’ve put it. I doubt anyone with a child at risk of crying during a wedding ceremony would be offended to be asked if they wouldn’t mind stepping out if the kid kicks off. All weddings I’ve ever been to where small children/babies were present, one of the parents sat at the back and stepped out if they needed to. Hope it goes well
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  • Kay
    Greater Manchester
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    Hi, I work for BBC Radio 2 and we're looking for stories of weddings being ruined by children (or bad parenting) for our show today and would be great to talk to you.......if you'd be interested in speaking to me please can you email me ***.*****@***.**.** - Many thanks, Kay

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