Crawling out of the woodwork

I was just talking to my OH about this. ? I really dont understand it at all. Ive had old school people who I wasn't even close to over 10 years ago asking where there invite is and one girl even told another mutual friend she had found a dress to come in!!!!!!!

We have told people that since i've got such a huge close family they wont be invited but we will meet for a drink. I know I wont hear from them again now lol.

My OH has a cousin and partner - now married - who we were quite friendly with when I first moved up here. The friendship was quite high maintenance, but we stuck with it. When they decided to get married we saved to go abroad with them and got told approx 4 - 6 weeks before the wedding that we werent as close as we should be, and that we were demoted from the wedding party. After a meet up to discuss and try and resolve any problems I wasnt aware of, we were back on. Since then, the wife has basically ignored me. She did many things to upset me, I was told I was having a miscarriage by my Dr and she called to be reassured that we would still be coming to the wedding. Not, are you ok? Do you need anything? Lol.

Since her wedding we grew apart, and now I am officially not invited to anything they host - ie fireworks, christmas or parties etc. Im fine with that, as I said, very high maintenance! But they got wind of our wedding (abroad also) and promptly invited themselves along via other family members. Errr. No love. You can bugger right off!

lol. I had a few family members who haven't bothered with me at all for about 10 years, and hardly at all before that, asking my mum about the wedding when they randomly bumped into her a few weeks ago. She had been dying to tell them to stick it and got her opportunity. I laughed my head off for ages when she told me. I'm so proud of her.... is that a bit wrong?

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Yep totally getting that too. I've had people I haven't seen for years directly asking me if they are being invited - the most uncomfortable one being an ex-boyfriend??! I've been quite diplomatic and told all of them that we are already struggling with the guest list for family and close friends (which is true) and leaving it at that. I'm sure they'll figure it out when they don't get an invite! Another thing I'm doing which is helping to keep the invite seekers at bay is not putting any status updates about it on Facebook.

Ah, me too. A girl I was friends with at uni, who I didn't really keep in touch with afterwards has now all of a sudden started trying to be best mates with me. Last time we saw each other was about 3 years ago, and whenever we're in contact, it's via text and it's a couple of exchanges along the lines of, "Hi, how are you?", "Good, how are you?". Since I got engaged, she's in contact every two weeks. Bleugh. My OH and I were at her wedding which was about 5 years ago now, but we've really not kept in touch. She's clearly expecting an invite, but I'm not so sure. Definitely not to the day, maybe the evening.

Even at work, I started a couple of months ago. About 3 weeks in, one of the guys was talking about going to our wedding, and I was like, "Hold on, I've known you for 3 weeks. What makes you think you are invited?". His answer, "Well, we'll have know each other for over a year by then". P off, we have known all our daytime guests for longer than 10 years, and there are plenty of evening guests that we would 'bump up' ahead of someone I've know a year by then if we have the space / funds.

I had the same problem with a so called work friend who didn't talk to me for months until she heard that I was getting married and that I was marrying into a military family. She didn't get an invite.

Nope, not had that here. No one is very interested, which is fine. Couldn't be coping with any extra expenses anyhoo...

Lol! I have not had the pleasure of telling her.

We decided to try and build bridges (OH and me) but she basically turned us down - which hurt a hell of a lot! So as and when she starts to book up when we tell the family dates I will very coyly be telling her to fook off.

My side have all been really well behaved but OH has had A LOT of family he hasn't seen for over 10 years suddenly add him on facebook and ask all about it. He also had a friend who received an evening invite then text him saying sorry to be cheeky but just wanted to check you meant to send that invite and not a day one. WHAAAAT??? He also spent the whole of OH's stag referring to it as the "rugby tour". No no love, rugby boys were invited on the stag. Moron.

Amazing!

I was gobsmacked....

That's pretty amazing! I would have sent back "no, sorry >>>> we didn't mean to send you either. can you just tear it up now and not worry?"

honestly........

Hahaha that would've been a good response!! I wasn't allowed to reply and when I said I hope you said yes it is cheeky and yes it was the right invite he rather abashedly said errr well two other people have cancelled so I've bumped him up!!!! The boy does not cope well under pressure. Can't say I won't mention it (in jest mind) when I next see him and it has made me laugh as well as being annoyed