Cutting bridesmaids post covid - potential regret!

At the end of the day it is your wedding and you should do what you feel most comfortable with!


It’s hard to comment as it depends what your friends are like. I would be incredibly upset if I were one of the bridesmaids, especially if they haven’t done anything wrong and you have been friends since childhood. I also think if I were in their position I would be questioning why me and not the other two 🙈
I definitely don’t think it’s a decision to be taken lightly but hope it all works out for you xx

I agree with Nikki, it will be incredibly disappointing for them and I think deep down you don't really want to cut the numbers of BMs. You say you are reviewing your guest list and have a date in mind, so it is not firmed and if you are pushing out further could you maybe wait and hold off the decision and discussion (so you don't regret it) until you have worked out your final list and costs and see if there is a way you can include them. I get you want a different feel and fresh start, which you can do with the venue, theme and food etc. but don't know that you need to cut your BM's. It is a difficult situation and you need to do what you are comfortable with, but I don't think you truly are comfortable with this decision and you need to take a step away as it seems to be overwhelming you. you have plenty of time to make the decision. Alternatively, if you are sure on cutting the numbers ( as I guess if you go back on it your H2B shouldn't have to cot his GM) could the 2 you are cutting do readings or something that still makes them part of the day? I truly hope you can make a decision you are happy with and your anxiety calms down XX

I think it would be better to have no bridesmaids than to have just 2. These four were presumably all asked at the same time, and if it was close to your engagement date, they've been expecting/planning on being your bridesmaids for four years now. I think it's inevitable that cutting the group in half is going to cause some strain on the friendships, especially as the two you cut will be wondering why you picked them.

What is your reason for wanting to cut the bridal party? Is it cost? Do you feel that a large bridal party would look out of place at a more low key wedding? Or is your guest list now so small that you risk having half the guest list in the bridal party?!!

If it's cost, you could get round that by asking them to wear their own choice of clothes (maybe within a certain colour range). This would also help towards making things more low-key/casual. If it's purely because of numbers, you could still ask your bridesmaids to get ready with you, but then go ahead of you to the ceremony venue and just join the rest of the guests.