Hi,
I'm getting married in less than a year and I'm planning all the usual bits (exciting!!) So whilst drawing up my guest list myself and the Mr have hit a snag... Her... My dad's new girlfriend, we shall call her Susan. This may be a bit long... So my dad cheated on my mum around 6 years ago. He has constantly lied about the whole situation saying it was my mum's choice to get a divorce out of nowhere, he hadn't done anything etc. He then kept up this facade for about 6 months saying he was 'staying with a male friend from work' eventually he admitted the truth (which we already knew as he's not very good with being subtle.
My siblings agreed to meet with her as in our eyes 'if he is happy we are happy' on the first time I met her she was nice but there was something not right i felt a bit uneasy but thought it's because of the whole cheating situation. After about 2 weeks her claws came out, she kept picking on me, shouting at me and blaming me for things that I haven't done or been anywhere near, whilst he sat there oblivious and ignoring what was going on as if he defended me he would get in the dog house with Susan. The final nail in the coffin with her was when she was screaming at me and dragging me around by my arm blaming me for breaking a wall in her garden with my car whilst at the same time her grandson (at 12 years old) was defending me saying it was his friends mum who hit it and she knew that.
Since then I have explained to my dad that I can't stand Susan, she makes me uncomfortable and nervous around her due to her hostility and her stopping him from being in contact with us (he only rings or answers his phone when he is at work). My other half doesn't like her one bit, (he came to this conclusion by watching her), she has also been hostile with my sister and brother too, not to forget she has said some very revolting things about my mum, who she hasn't met and doesn't know .
The issue is both me and my hubby to be do not want Susan at the wedding, but I think my dad will take this personally. What do I do? Am I right in saying to him she's not invited as she makes me feel uncomfortable and it's my special day which I want to share with him? Knowing Susan she will demand a invite or stop him from coming (this is her special trick she always arranges something to stop him seeing us at the last minute)
What are your thoughts?
