did you pay for yourself on your hen do?

sames here, i organised my best mates last year and we all paid a wee bit more to cover her costs!

I think that's what traditionally happens.

I will probably insist on paying for myself as a lot of my ladies aren't loaded and I'd rather their extra cash went on an extra drink or some fudge cake at dinner! haha.

Ive just come back from a hen do in New York and we pretty much paid for the whole lot for the bride which caused a few arguements seens as it was her idea to go there in the first place, but on the whole if it were a weekend away in this country or a night out we would cover the brides costs!

When I watch DTTB the hen/stag dos seem to be paid for out of the wedding budget (so wrong!).

I wouldn't expect people to pay for me though on my hen do, I have never done this (paid for the hen) at the ones I have been to...

I wouldnt want anyone to pay for me. Money is tight for everyone and im happy to pay my way.

I'm insisting on paying my way too as eveyone is short of money these days. No idea what the do is yet - my daughter has arranged it as a surprise.

All of the hen parties I have been on, the hen's 'cost' has been split by those attending the party. My sisters are organising mine and so far all of the money I've tried to give them has been returned to me. I'm assuming that mine will be paid for.

I am having another hen party in London that I've organised. This includes both mums and other family. We'll all be paying for our food and I'm going to buy a few bottles of champagne so we can all have a glass or two during the afternoon tea.

Im going for a long weekend in Marbella...I have paid for myself. I wouldnt expect anyone to pay for me, its not cheap and was my idea to go so I feel i should pay my way. I am more than happy to anyway

Im the opposite with my hen party, im paying for all of them to come away with me!!

I'm in it with ya, sista!

My flights & hotel are being paid for..my bridesmaid is sorting it all, i know where im going & when & thats about it!

see thats the same with me but my bridesmaids who are organising have just asked me for the money. I'm not being ungrateful but I could have organised it myself and done it cheaper and more what I wanted so I'm just a bit suprised. We all earn about the same so its not that I have more money and I wanted a cheap break. I'm happy to pay my own way, I would just probably have organised what I wanted if that was the case! Plus, it would have been less than £10 each i think to cover the costs which doesn't seem a lot

Oh well, another issue to add to the bridesmaid list!

My sister's organising mine and has asked if people would chip in an extra £5 to help towards to cost of me going. I'm happy to pay, but it would be lovely if people were happy to pay for me too!

I know my BM's will want to pay for me but I'm going to make sure I pay for myself. We are much better off finacially than they are (one does a job which is more of a vocation with naff pay & the other is a student) so I wouldn't feel comfortable with them paying for me. I hope we're going to have a spa day followed by seeing a show & maybe a bit of girly shopping & I hope the girls will let me at least pay for their spa days as neither of them have a lot of money & they are being very supportive BM's so far.

I paid my accomodation, and we had a kitty for drinks which i paid into.

However my friends did pay for stuff like champagne, cakes, and fancy dress outfits and props for me as they were organising it all.

I paid for mine!

I organised mine and paid for it. I even bought most of the drinks. My bridesmaids did nada. Still smarting about the whole thing now. They didn't even do anything at the wedding!

I actually thought my costs would be covered by everyone, seeing as that's what we did for my CBMs do, but I'm paying for myself! I don't mind too much cause one BM is a housewife and the other a student so I can afford it more than them but still.. ?

Maybe they might offer when we go out for dinner and drinks nearer the time?! lol

Kat you sounds in a similar situation to me - bit disappointing isn't it! I hope they'll have suprises planned on the weekend though, although given there performance so far as bridesmaids I think i'd better manage my expectations better!

I've not been asked for any money from my BMs and I know they've all paid a deposit and the second payment is coming up...feel a bit bad for not offering to pay something now but I just assumed they'd ask if they wanted some money.

maybe offering was my mistake! ?

We are going to Spain for my hen do. I wouldn't expect anyone to pay for me. I know they are planning things to dress me up in etc- and they will all chip in for extra things whilst we are there.

All the hen parties and weekends that i have organised, we have all paid for ourselves and anything else that i wanted to do for the Hen I have paid out for myself.

No I would never expect them to pay for me, its enough of an expense for them anyway. I'm sure they will buy me a drink or 2 tho.

Yeah, I have to say I was slightly miffed lol (not meant to sound selfish/greedy!). To be fair though, my CBM has said she's planning lots of things I won't know about and she's been great with helping with anything I need so far and I know on the day all 3 of them will be there to help me ?

Im paying for mine we a going abroad for the weekend and appreciate the grils are paying out more than is normal on a hen night.

When I organised my SIL's hen do I just added a little to each girl's costs. So she paid nothing (apart from a few drinks and her lunch on the saturday) and we paid £200 each for a fab weekend in London full of activities

My sisters and friends organised my whole hen night, I didn't have a clue about any of it until each thing happened. I was very lucky and I didn't pay a thing. It has been the same with all Hen Do's I have been on or organised, the cost of the bride to be is always split!

I'm paying for myself and wouldn't expect any different. My mum has said she wants to buy little bits like sashes, party accessories (I was going to get some off eBay and got shouted at ?), and a few people have said I don't have to worry about drinks on the night.

I'm going to a hen night soon and I'm BM. I think it's a bit unfair tbh to be 'expected' to do something jut because you're BM but that's just me.

I don't think you can expect everyone else to pay for you, especially if you have dictated the plans or if it's going to be expensive. It should just be an unexpected bonus. If I were to invite people out to dinner for my birthday, for example, I wouldn't expect them all to pay for me. It's the same principle really. If your share doesn't end up being split between the others, just be grateful that they are paying to attend in the first place. Don't forget, attending the actual wedding won't exactly be cheap, and times are hard at the moment.

I've only been to one hen do where the cost of the bride was covered and I was a bit annoyed at that as her and her OH are loaded and better off than most people that attended. However there were 22 of us so it didn't come to much.

I insisted that I pay for my own place on my hen. I could never dream of asking other people to pay for me. It is my choice to go away for the weekend and a lot of my friends don't have a lot of money.