Dilemma on matron of honour

Dump her as MOH- weddings are stressful enough without adding a MOH who doesn’t know her place in the hierarchy of wedding decision making.

Yep, get another MoH! That’s incredibly unsupportive and you need someone who is there’s for you. It’s one thing to question your decisions calmly and carefully if they’re sound a bit wacky, but to give you that ultimatum...

As for being older - age has nothing to do with it!

Change the MOH, not your colour scheme.

I can understand if she felt uncomfortable over a low neckline/high hemline or a very tight-fitting dress because we all have different standards of modesty, but throwing a tantrum over a colour you don't like is ridiculous. You don't need that kind of drama in your wedding party.

And don't feel you have to share it if you don't want to, but I'd love to know what colour she's objecting to. I'm trying to work out what shade could possibly be so terrible to ask an 'older' MOH to wear!!!!

View quoted message She is objecting to grey, but my first choice was dusky blue she objected to that colour she wanted a short dress then wanted a long dress now wants long sleeved dress I am just about fed up with her now don't want to fall out with her but I am losing my patience thanks for your reply

View quoted message Thank you I am losing my patience with her so demanding and it's stressful

View quoted message Thank you it was a dusky blue she didn't want that then I decided to change to a lovley grey colour and I am not budging from the grey colour scheme and yet again she is still not happy I am losing my patience now

View quoted message Thank you it doesn't matter what colour I would choose she would moan, the dresses are beautiful long and floaty no plunging neck lines as I am a older bride I went with what I would feel like, I am losing my patience with her now x

Keep the colours and ditch the MoH. Its not her wedding, not her choice, x

View quoted message Thank you I think I will do just that, stressful x

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Good luck, and watch the weight lift off your shoulders once you remove her from the situation! These things are stressful enough without that nonsense xx

View quoted message Thank you I just need to be very tactful and not upset her too much definitely standing my ground x

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She needs to realise it's your wedding, not hers!

View quoted message Thank you, she has gone after a comment she made if I was 10 years younger I would have your hubby to be (last straw)

View quoted message Wow what a thing to say!
Was she a good friend before all this?! what is wrong with some people. Good luck with your wedding plans!

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Yes a very good friend before this, unfortunately not now which is quite sad, wow you don't really know people I am so much happier tonight thanks for all the advice x x 💖

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I have no words...

View quoted message Absolutely agree

View quoted message Seriously... like Wtaf?! Sooo glad you saw her for her authentic self before she had the chance to spoil your special day. Best wishes on your wedding x

She sounds very jealous, and not a happy person. Hopefully the silver lining to such a sad scenario is that you found out before your wedding, when you can make other plans and not have her spoil things further. Hope you have a lovely day.

View quoted message Hi,
Thank you yes definitely I can now have our wedding planning to ourselves again thank you for your kind words

Glad you’ve gotten rid of her.
At my friends wedding her MOH was terrible this is why I advise to dump yours. My friends MOH gave her the opposite of what the bride requested for a hen do and decided not to show up for the hair and makeup the bride had paid for the morning of the wedding- instead she opted to dye her her the morning of (it went ginger) and instead of the natural look the bride wanted for the maids showed up with basically panda eyes ruining all the photos. My friend has been happily married for 5 years but is still upset by this. Somebody not supporting you isn’t worth the hassle

Like everyone else has said, get a new MOH. Her job is to support you and keep you looking fabulous throughout the day which she is already making about herself. You don't need that kind of energy on one of the happiest days of your life. Find a new one of none at all. Xx

View quoted message Hi, she has been replaced she didn't seem too surprised when I told her, but thanks everyone for your advice on this subject x x x 💖

View quoted message Thank you I would have gone mad if she coloured her hair on the morning of the wedding I have the best two bridesmaid now x x x 💖

Wow what a as horrible person! I’m glad you’ve got rid of her. You definitely don’t need that type of stress on the day and as for the 10 years younger comment......sounds like you need better friends. X

View quoted message Thank you yes definitely she has gone out of my life feel so much better
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It's your wedding day if she doesn't like it , then that's tough . Stick to your guns on the colour.

It’s your wedding not hers. If she is saying she won’t be your MoH over a colour scheme then she doesn’t deserve to be your MoH or even friend.

View quoted message Hi its all sorted now she has been replaced now I can start my planning x