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Beginner August 2022 Buckinghamshire

Disappointed about my hen do

Paige, 22 April, 2022 at 05:52 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 3
I get married in August and my MOH has been planning my hen do since last summer. With 5 days to go it has gone from 12 to 7 and I just feel so deflated by it that I just really don't want to go anymore. The people who are not coming are not coming for very genuine reasons- my sister is having emergency eye surgery, my fture MIL and SIL are not coming are my future FIL had a siezure 3 days ago which means they can't leave him alone, two families friends can't come either because of other family situations. I completely feel for them and I understand why they are not coming but at the same time, I just feel servrely disappointed and I just feel like my hen do is not going to be special and meaningful anymlre with so many important people missing. I just don't want to go. My friend has spent hundreds and I know that she is very disheartened too. I am finding it very hard to be excited. I suffer from bad anxiety and I can't quite seem to 'get over' myself. I know I have to go, that's not a choice but can anyone give me some words of encouragement. If I am honest, I just feel very sad and deflated and if I was going to do this again, I would rather not have had a hen do. TIA xx

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Latest activity by Aoife, 26 April, 2022 at 12:20
  • Jennifer
    Beginner July 2022 South West London
    Jennifer ·
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    I know it feels tough not having important people there (most of my family aren’t coming to my wedding so I know it sucks!)


    But what about the other 7? They still really care about you, as does your MOH for putting so much effort in! And you know the reasons for the others not coming are beyond their control, so you’ll just have to do your best to focus on those friends/family who are looking forward to having a fun day with you
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    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
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    It is awful that your family are going through these things, and is understandable they cant attend and feel fro you as it is dissapointing, but the have genuine reason for not coming, not that they just cant be bothered which would be more hurtful. You will still have people there that want to be there for you. I had similar and mine ended up being just 6 of us but actually I preferred it as was less hectic and more chilled out, which helped my anxiety. Please try not to get down, the main thing is having them at your actual wedding so go on your hen and enjoy it with the people who can make it

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    Beginner May 2022 Cork
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    I'm so sorry you had such bad anxiety, I completely get it. I was worried about how my hen would go and it turns out I was completely justified as it was a massive disappointment. I hope you went and it turned out better than expected. x

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