Do you treat nieces / nephews / brothers / sisters the same?

Hmm interesting one. I think there needs to be a degree of fairness. I am one of 4 and one of the things that I remember mum and dad saying is that they always strived to treat us as equally as possibly on everything and I still maintain that principle now. x

Always.

I have 5 nieces and a step nephew so as you can imagine, it gets expensive. Birthdays are set at £15 each and then Christmas we all go in together to get each child something bigger, rather than little presents. We all (myself and 3 siblings) put in £60 at Christmas and then each child has £40 spent on them.

WRT my siblings, myself and my brother don't buy for each other now as our birthday's are less than 3 weeks apart and if there's nothing we want we ask for money so it seems pointless swapping money for a few days. At Christmas myself and 2 sisters do a 'not so secret santa' between us - not so secret because there's only 3 of us so it's easy to work out who everyone has got! We may extend that to the BIL's this year to make it a little more interesting. Otherwise we don't buy for BIL / SIL. Too many people in my family for that! My immediate family is 17 people - Mum, Dad, 2 sisters and 2 BIL's, 1 brother and a SIL, 6 children, Nan and myself / H.

I spend the same amount on my two kids for birthdays and Christmas. For birthdays, they have a set amount and that includes money for their party as well - if they want a big present, they don't have a big party.

We spend £15 each on our nephews for Christmas and birthday.

I am the same are you on that score RaeF - except mine is 16 as we don't have any kids yet but I have 4 siblings + partners etc.

I can't imagine giving OHs nephew something big and his niece something small but OHs principle would be "they both got what they wanted". I find this all very interesting.

I have 3 brothers and a sister, and 13 nieces and nephews so the answer is no lol

growing up was expensive for Flow!!

I have 4 nephews, 1 older sister, 1 younger sister and 1 younger brother.

My nephews and younger siblings get £10 or £15 whichever I can afford at the time but I do try and give them all the same that yr.

Me and my older sister don't really buy each other a lot

Occasionally they all have treats the others don't and I don't feel bad about it. For example a few yrs ago my oldest nephew needed rugby boots and my sister couldn't afford them but I was in a position where I could.

Last yr I bought my little sister an ipod for doing well in her GCSEs

My mum always spent the same amount on us, and as we got older, it looked like the older kids had more than the younger ones. This was because the older kids wanted branded stuff, whereas the little ones wanted toys, so you could get more for your money.

there were 9 of us, so she used to save throughout the year in order to afford it.

She also spent the same on us for birthdays.

Now she has grandkids, she buys my son more than my step brothers 2 lads, as she hardly sees them, they only seem to come round when it's their birthday or xmas, so she begrudges buying them as much, as she sees my son 2 or 3 times a week.

When it was just my son, all my money went on him christmas and birthdays, but now i'm preggers, and have 2 step kids, i've got to decide how i'm going to work it. will be a shock for my son though, who is used to having £1500 worth of pressies to himself at christmas.

I think i'll probably spend more on my 2, and slightly less on step kids, as to my thinking, they have their mum and step dad to buy for them too, my son just has me and OH as he doesn't see his sperm donor.

My mum's side of the family was small, whereas my dad's side was quite big. They all decided at some point not to buy presents for birthdays or Xmas because it would have just been silly.

H's family is also quite big - he has 5 siblings and 10 nieces and nephews of various ages. We tend to only buy cards for birthdays and for Xmas only the parents, brothers and sisters get presents.

Having said that, I always buy my brother a birthday present because there's just him IYSWIM?

My nieces are aged 1,2 and 8 ( ? ) all get roughly the same. I absalutely make sure of it!!!! When i was growing up there was only me, my sis and 1 cousin, the 1 cousin ALWAYS got more expensive pressie from the family than me and my sister. Eg. of one year for our Bday pressie one relative gave me £1 in Feb, My sister got £5 in May, and the cousin got £10. Even now at my age, this goes on but instead i get £0, i can't think of any reason why and i used to make a real effort to make them like me and thought that we were close but it still happens.i just have to accept it but it does make me wonder why they treat us differently and why they think its ok to do this even now when we're grown up

I try and make it all the same,my kids are 15,13 and 3,so obviously the 3 year old has no clue. Birthdays the girls get a set amount that they can do as they wish with,they can have all the money or presents or a meal out with friends or a bit of all of them. I have to be strict about it and watch my money as my middle girls birthday is a few days before Christmas then my OH's birthday is new year. I am always so skint in Decenber...oh OH gets much less spent on him lol.