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Does she normally wear makeup and do her hair? She could be worried/ scared to have it done as it’s not her ‘normal’. How are you having their hair and makeup? If it’s a look which is out of her comfort zone I understand her saying no. I originally asked my sister to have her hair up but she refused as she never wears her hair up and would feel uncomfortable, I totally understood and changed the style as I want her to feel comfortable on the day.
Could you sit down and see what she wants and then compare it to how you want? Maybe she has reasons why she doesn’t want your look. If is way off from the look you wanted then you could work out a way to make it more your ideal.
Are you having more than 1 bridesmaid? If she’s the only one then she won’t look out of place, but if you have a few then remind her she’ll stand out. Though to be fair everyone will be looking at you ❤️

I think they need to be comfortable with how they look, I’ve said to my bridesmaids hair and makeup how they like as I know they will all look lovely.

I’ll add to what Emma and Marcie have said…. Are they refusing to wear makeup or refusing to pay to have their makeup done?


If the latter, if you want them to use a professional MUA/hair stylist then you may need to at least offer to foot the bill regardless of if “they can afford it” .

I have told my bridesmaids they can wear their hair and have make up however they like as I want them to feel comfortable. I have offered to pay for their hair and make up to be done by the same people that are doing mine as we are all getting ready together at the venue.

My bridesmaids can wear their hair and make up (if they choose to wear make up) however they like. As long as it looks tidy I'm not fussed. I'm not paying for a hair stylist or MUA as I won't be using one for myself so they are welcome to hire one for themselves if they want it xx

I sent a load of photos of hair and makeup styles created by the artists I’ve chosen for the day and asked how they feel about them. I did a selection of up and down hair styles and then also soft or super glam makeup. All were happy to pick the styles they liked and mix up their look for the day. I’m paying for everything too so I think that’s helped x