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Beginner May 2012

dress and cake anxiety (rant alert)

dlees81, 17 January, 2012 at 21:40 Posted on Planning 0 11

Following on from the 'told not to lose any more weight' thread, I had a little browse for a 'going away' dress in Debenhams today and found a lovely Debut tea length gown. I have generally been about size 8 or 10 for the last year, but thought I'd give this pretty a try even though it was a size 6. It was falling off me... my (sample sale) wedding dress is currently a size 12 :/ I don't want to offend as I know this is a bit of an odd problem but a problem it is for me nonetheless. I was told when I bought it that I don't need to get measured for alterations 'til April, but I have an 'accessories try-on' with it at the end of this month. Just worried they won't be able to get it to fit and maintain shape/detail and I'll end up having to rush out and buy something completely non-bridal as money won't stretch to other and off-the-peg ones won't fit as I'm a midget...

Not really after advice about that just wanted to rant sorry, and while I'm at it...

I agreed with OH that We could have a go at making the wedding cake ourselves. He has plenty of ideas (quite traditional) about how it should look, which in theory sounded fine. Now it seems to have fallen to me, which I sort of understand because he has lots of gardening to do to prepare for our guests coming for drinks and photos in our garden, and that's where his skills are. But, cooking isn't where my skills are! He told all his family to get me specialist cake making equipment for Christmas, and I'm about to start a cake decorating course tomorrow. I do want to the cake for us, so I need to do the course so I know what I'm doing, but I'm not doing it because I'm interested, just because I feel I need to. So not feeling positive or motivated about it, just terrified!

It would be nice if someone who'd done one of these could come and tell me that they'll be gentle with me and I will enjoy it!

Eeek and eeek! And eeek at the date getting nearer!

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Latest activity by westlakedesignsbasic, 19 January, 2012 at 12:01
  • Gurzle
    Beginner April 2013
    Gurzle ·
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    There's always M&S if you really decide you're not up for it...

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  • *Nursey*
    Beginner May 2012
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    I agree with Gurzle - your seamstresses know better than anyone, so try not to worry. As she said, a size 12 dress is not a shop size 12! On the same token, a size 6-8 in one shop isn't the same as another 6-8 in another shop!

    As for the cakes, I personally couldn't attempt to make my own, due to lack of practice time and time around the wedding day. However, if you think you can do it and it won't be too much pressure, then cool. Or see how the course goes and then decide?

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  • Soulmates
    Beginner August 2012
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    There was someone on here who made their own cake, can't remember who though!

    If you really aren't into making your own cake then just tell your OH. No point stressing over something that there is a simple solution to.

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  • 3d jewellery
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    I would explain toi the dress shop that you have lost weight and arrange to try it on now, so you aren't worrying. I am a 14 in BHS and a 14 in next doesn't fit me with a 6" gap on skirts.

    Don't worry about the course until you have been for a couple of lessons, you may love it and it will give you a new skill. Who knows you might even make a business out of it. Think of all the lovely birthday cakes you will be able to make for your children, friends and family.

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  • Mrs-HFA
    Beginner December 2012
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    Hi,

    I can't help you with the dress sizes I'm afraid but I bake cakes including wedding cakes. What started as a hobby a year ago has turned into a small business and I also run an online baking forum. I am more than happy to share tips and advice with you.

    I would say that it's not a particularly easy task to cover and decorate cakes neatly/professionally looking but you tube is a fantastic help if I can help with anything please, just pm me. Good luck.

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  • Mrs-HFA
    Beginner December 2012
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    Hi,

    I can't help you with the dress sizes I'm afraid but I bake cakes including wedding cakes. What started as a hobby a year ago has turned into a small business and I also run an online baking forum. I am more than happy to share tips and advice with you.

    I would say that it's not a particularly easy task to cover and decorate cakes neatly/professionally looking but you tube is a fantastic help if I can help with anything please, just pm me. Good luck.

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  • Purple Pixie
    Beginner July 2012
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    If you need any help when you're planning/making your cake just give me a yell. I've baked and decorated more cakes than I care to remember ?

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  • lurvlytwink
    Beginner June 2012
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    If you're worried about the cake...ask your friends. i seem to have lots of friedns who make cakes all willing to help (make) mine. if not then there's always M&s/asda caked ...simple ribbon & bobs your uncle & fannys your aunt.

    dress...dont sweat at themoment....wait til you try it. ask to bring it forward if you can but dont worry about htings just yet else you'll get your self in a tiz Smiley smile x

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  • D
    Beginner May 2012
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    Thanks all so much, I was tizzing.

    Re. dress, I am putting myself on a 'diet', and going to see how I get on with my try-on this month and ask the bridal shop if I need an earlier fitting appointment.

    Cake: course was not as scary as thought. I didn't start very well though so still not sure if I'm up to it but will persevere as the new skills will come in anyway. Got a fair bit of 'homework' for next week, so I will try to get plenty of practice in. Little hitch in that childcare has dropped out but hopefully I will find someone else.

    OH didn't like the idea of fresh flowers on cakes if I mess up the sugarcraft, threatened to get the kids to decorate it with smarties etc. if I fail! We are still open to sourcing the cake from elsewhere if I do throw the towel in.

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    They should have a good idea on what is and isn't do-able in terms of alterations, and this would help to put your ming at rest.

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  • westlakedesignsbasic
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    With regards to the cake many supermarkets have the plain white or piped white wedding cakes in 3 different sizes to have a tiered cake, you can then alwasy decorate with something like these below which i am just about to upload to my site Smiley smile Dont stress as the day will be the best day you ever have Smiley smile


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