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Beginner April 2026 Northamptonshire

Engagement Party

Katherine, 7 November, 2024 at 16:21 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 8
My partner and I have been together for 10 years, and we got engaged this weekend. Everyone has asked if there will be an engagement party. It sounds lovely but…
I didn’t know they were a thing. What do you think, shall we throw a party whilst trying to save for a wedding? I’d rather put effort into planning for the big day. We don’t have a big house so we’d have to hire somewhere or go to the pub which we can’t afford (we just moved into our first home this year. We’re only just scraping by!)

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Latest activity by Naomi, 7 December, 2024 at 17:30
  • PhotographybyBillHaddon
    Super January 3000 Leicestershire
    PhotographybyBillHaddon ·
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    Hi - its not such a things as it used to be but I think its just people jumping on any excuse for a party - who doesn't love a party - right. But you are much better off saving for your wedding and settling into your house.

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    Rockstar July 2024 Cumbria
    Shay ·
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    I never wanted a party and neither did my now husband! If people are very excited for you all and you both want too ask them to meet you at your local pub! Put your money to better use!
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  • R
    VIP July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
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    If you're just scraping by financially, then it makes no sense at all to put money towards an engagement party when you already have a wedding to save up for!

    If you want to do something to celebrate, look at doing it low-cost. Either have a bring & share - at your own home or hire a local village/church/community hall or book a restaurant on the understanding that everyone who comes pays for their own meal. Most people I know who have done engagement parties have done something like this, and it's been fine.

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  • Katrina
    Dedicated February 2025 West Midlands
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    CONGRATULATIONS
    Me and Fiance have been together for 11 years. Have you thought about a date yet? Spend within your means don't over board. Do what you both want to DO. Remember its your & fiancé's big day Don't fall into pressure from family. Plan out what you want from your day. Please also budget as well we went way over our budget:/ we underestimated. Best of luck x
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    Beginner June 2027 Essex
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    Hiya, congratulations! We are having an engagement party! However if we was struggling financially we wouldn’t be doing one x
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    Beginner April 2025 Surrey
    Kelly ·
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    I believe, once upon a time, an engagement gift was purchased for 'your bottom drawer' and this was the start of engagement events. Now, parties seem to be way overblown and Instagram and Pinterest have a lot to answer for!
    Do what feels right. My partner and I have been together 15 years and our wedding is 4 months away. In the summer, we had a small BBQ purely for the wedding party - parents, Best man, bridesmaids etc. It was an opportunity for the most important people to get to know each other but without breaking the wedding budget! It was a really lovely, relaxed day.
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  • Waqas
    Beginner December 2024 Cornwall
    Waqas ·
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    Are you planning or attending an engagement party? If so, here’s a quick rundown based on what you might need:

    1. Hosting an Engagement Party
    • Purpose: It celebrates a couple's commitment and is often the first official announcement of their engagement to family and friends.
    • Venue Ideas: Can range from home gatherings, restaurants, gardens, or event halls.
    • Theme: Decide if you want a casual, formal, or themed event (e.g., rustic, elegant, or a destination vibe).
    • Guest List: Usually close friends and family. The party is more intimate than the wedding itself.
    2. Attending an Engagement Party
    • Gift Etiquette: A small gift is usually appreciated, like a bottle of wine, a gift card, or something meaningful for the couple. It's not required but thoughtful.
    • Dress Code: Follow the theme or venue vibe. Semi-formal is usually a safe bet unless specified otherwise.
    3. Games or Activities
    • Engagement parties often have icebreaker activities or games like:
      • Trivia about the couple.
      • "Who Knows the Couple Best?" quiz.
      • DIY photo booths.

    Let me know if you're looking for planning tips, gift ideas, or outfit suggestions!

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  • Naomi
    Beginner June 2025 Essex
    Naomi ·
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    Me & my future husband got engaged recently and if we were struggling financially we wouldn't have an engagement party. To be honest I am not sure an engagement party is necessary unless you both want to have one but naturally this is your choice. You both know what you want and what your priorities are so unless this is something you both really want to do rather than feel the pressure to do this I would advise against it.Smiley shame

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