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2b_MrsB
Beginner June 2013

Entourage has overgrown !

2b_MrsB, 20 April, 2012 at 10:40 Posted on Planning 0 11
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Hi Everyone.

Originally, we were only going to have 2 BMs(my daughters),1 Usher(my Son) and the Best man, but then I asked Aunt, whom I've always been close to, to be my MOH and do a reading as my eldest daughter would still be too young to sign the register .....then OH decided one of his friends to be an usher too ( he had presumed he'd be BM ! ), a few weeks later we both thought the bridal party looked one sided (OH's parents have both past away & he is an only 1) and decided to look at having one of his cousins little girl as a FG.........then we felt it was unfair to pick only 1 as he has 2 cousins that he is close to, 1 of which has 2 girls and the other only 1, so...........now we have 3!! FG's.

I feel this is too many people now for walking down the aisle from what I had intended to be a small bridal party but i can't UNASK people! .....

So I'm thinking of only having my 2 daughters(BMs), My Son (usher) who wants to walk down the aisle with us as a family, and the 3 FGs and obviously my Dad and myself walking down the aisle and asking the other usher to wait with H2B and BM at the top of the aisle and also have my MOH wait there on the bride's side to take my bouquet before they all sit down, leaving my H2B and myself standing for the ceremony.

Does this seem ok ?? and does anyone think its strange to not have your MOH walk down the aisle??

Anyone any other ideas to cut down what seems to have become an overgrown entourage, only looking to have around 70 guests including all of the above.

Sorry its so long-winded !

I'd appreciate any advice.

L x

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Latest activity by Sloth, 21 April, 2012 at 15:55
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    MAG2FMC ·
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    We've all heard it before: it's your day, and you should do what you want. Smiley smile

    That being said, I think the what your proposing might fit nicely, because it seems the only people (besides you and your dad) who will walk down the aisle will be children. I think you can definitely pull that off.

    As for your MOH not walking down the aisle, I wouldn't find this particularly odd. Sure, she typically would, but often the best men and other groomsmen don't at all -- they just wait at the top of the aisle -- so who's to say that MOH shouldn't also do this?!

    (As an aside, I think it would be fine to unask people. At first, I would've cringed at the idea, but honestly, you're only getting one shot at this ceremony, and I think there are ways you can explain diplomatically and nicely why, in reconsidering the issue, you'd only want a small number of people.)

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  • 2b_MrsB
    Beginner June 2013
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    Thanks for replying.

    My son will be 19 ( oh thats so scary ! ) and eldest daughter will be 14 so not really kids and thought they could walk together behind the little FGs, 1 aged 4 1/2 other 2 will be only 2 1/2, so think they need people infront and behind them, My youngest daughter, has named herself the "mini bridesmaid" and for some reason thinks she will go down the aisle first carrying a ring cushion, I've no idea where she got the idea but don't really see a problem with her entering infront of my dad and I......still sound ok ??

    as for "UNASKING " ...who do I ask to step down ? just couldn't bring myself to do it to any of the FGs and OH won't do it to the other Usher, my kids need to be in the bridal party, so its seems I'm stuck with what I have now anyway.

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    I think I would wonder if she was a BM/MOH to be honest. How about she goes behind you, means she can straighten your dress and walks down the isle but maybe with people in front and behind wont look to many people.

    Also as most of them are children who can all walk down together I don't think it will look to many

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    Still think it's okay, as you're basically having your children (even if older!) plus actually little ones (the FGs). I think it would be lovely!

    And of course, your children should be in the bridal party! If of course you'd prefer not to unask anyone, you shouldn't. I just misread what you posted initially and inferred that you were wanting to unask people but didn't think you were "allowed" to.

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  • 2b_MrsB
    Beginner June 2013
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    Oh I'd love to "UNASK" the other Usher ( not my favorite person really) but OH says I'm not allowed lol

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    She will be the "mini" bridesmaid and as she is only going to be 8, I think people will realise she is not the MOH.

    Don't the FGs go behind my dad and I ??

    OMG ! why is planning a wedding so complicated , I did it in secret the first time and at times wonder if it was the best way to do it !

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    I had this dilemma too.

    I would love to have a flower girl but there are no little girls on my side but OH has 5 girls on his side. I comtemplated having the 5 as it wouldn't be fair to ask one and not the others but I have decided to have none of them, also OH sister is getting married the year after us and I think that she will have them all so I didn't want to have the same FG's as the pictures would start to look identical.

    I originally wanted to have 4 BM's but one who I was going to ask is pregnant and the little one will be nearly 1 when we get married and I get the impression she doesn't want to be asked to be a BM. However I am hoping she has a girl so she can be a mini FG, even thinking of getting a mini trailer type thing (don't know how to describe it) so she can sit in it and one of the BM can pull/push her down the ailse in it! But my friend doesn't want to know what she is having until she gives birth so I am waiting in suspense until then!!

    I am having 3 BM's, possibly 1 Page boy, then 2 ushers and a best man (although I am trying to convince OH to have 2 best men, then 1 extra usher)

    It does get complicated when you don't want to upset people.

    x

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  • 2b_MrsB
    Beginner June 2013
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    Do you mean have one of your BMs pull the FG in a little wooden cart or something? ...this would be really sweet i think

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    Yes thats what I was thinking. Haven't asked my friend yet as I don't know what she is having till she gives birth in July!!

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    Yes thats what I was thinking. Haven't asked my friend yet as I don't know what she is having till she gives birth in July!!

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  • 2b_MrsB
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    Awwwwwww ...I don't even know your friend but I'm sooo hoping she has a girl !! ......imagine the photos !! .......cute factor or what ??

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    And breathe Smiley smile make a decisions and go with it, Any of the things people say no one is going to really think is odd. In the end its lovely to have them involved. Decide how you want it and go with it Smiley smile

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