evening do etiquette- panicking!

Hi Mel B, it really just depends, lots of people have different opinions on this one. Personally, i am putting gift list info in with evening invites. Ive been to lots of weddings as an evening guest where the couple have done this and it didnt offend me in the slightest. xxx

I think it's fine to put the same info in both that is what were doing if people are offended don't give us anything!!

You can't have two lists! If you don't put it in people can always ask if you would like anything

Hi mel

i've been invited to lots of evening only weddings and have still either bought a gift or contributed to whatever the bride and groom had asked for tbh i wouldnt have felt right not doing something, at the end of the day i was still part of the celebrations and they had fed and in some cases watered me for the evening so to not have given something in return would seem rude. also if u are asking for hm vouchers they can feel free to give as much or as little as they like so it is a bit less pressure than having to buy a 'proper' gift hth x

I'm sending the same info pack to everyone, including gift list, if they are offended they won't buy something (fair enough).

Just don't invite Bluelady's Mum, as you'll only get tea towels!!! ?

I'm going to go against the grain here and say don't put them in with the evening invites. they are only there for the evening, and comparatively, less money is 'spent' on them, so it seems quite forward to ask for something from them. if they want to get you something they will ask.

I'm not putting gift info in ANY of my invites but if i was then I still wouldnt put them in the evening. I agree with bluewater, there is no need to put the info in and if they want to give you a wedding gift then allow them to decide that for themselves.

We are looking forward to seeing what we get and if anyone asks about gifts then we just tell them somethig we are after. So far we have the promise of some bedlinen and a breadmaker,woooo! lol

I'd put it in. People can / will ignore if they don't think it us appropriate. I've been sent the gift list info with evening only invites. I've not been able to make the evening do's but for 2 of them I sent a smallish (£10 ish) gift from the list and didn't for the others as I didn't feel it was appropriate as I didn't really know the couples that well.

I've just realised that I don't actually know whether our evening guests got gift list info or not! My parents sent out the invitations and I have no idea if they put the info in. All our evening guests bought a gift, only one was from the list. This could mean gift list info went out and was ignored, or it could mean that one asked Mum and Dad about gifts. Personally, I wouldn't be offended to receive gift list info as an evening guest.

Our evening guests didn't get gift lists. Then again neither did our day time ones, i just put a little note in the info booklet that we sent out saying that we wouldn't be having a gift list and if any guest did want to get us a gift then we'd appreciate either vouchers for argos or money to go towards theme park tickets for our honeymoon.

What she said!

I'm not planning on doing any gift lists (or if we do, it'll be small and available on request from us or our parents). Not keen on the idea of gift lists for evening guests personally. Wouldn't be offended to revieve one however.

I only put gift info in day invites, however, on the day they would have arrived i had an email from someone asking if we had a gift list.......

What they said - nothing in any of the invitations but have left a list with mum and dad in the event people ask ;0) x