Evening guest not wanted

Have you sent evening invitations already to everyone except this one person? Would they get the hint when they have not received an invitation when everyone else has? You could ask everyone else in the workplace to keep the details secret from this person, if they don't know when/where then they can't turn up.

I agree with Hayley - ask those you have invited to keep quiet about it. If you don't discuss the wedding at work, and no one shares details, then hopefully this person will not know where or when to go - or if they do know, then they might forget if they're not reminded.

However, if they are really vindictive and put a lot of effort in, they are likely to find out eventually. I would suggest notifying your venue that they are not invited or welcome. (I'm assuming your marriage is taking place in a secular venue. Be aware that you can't restrict access to anyone who wants to come to a church ceremony) But I would also be very casual about it if they talk to you about coming. Don't show you're upset or start insisting they don't come. Just tell them that they are not invited, and if they are rude enough to gatecrash, that's their issue, not yours. People who love drama usually get bored if they don't get any and move on to something else.

Hi Hayley

It is more of an open invite, The stubborn person has a very close relationship with the boss of the company, the boss of the company happens to be a family member on my partners side. SO yeah complicated isn't the word. Whilst in this position the stubborn person believes they have a right to attend various events they are not wanted at.

Thanks Melissa, some good advise there. this person is one of those people who do not see themselves as a problem. everyone around them is the problem. They take no responsibility for there actions and put the blame on others. I know when i ave the conversion with this person, it will all be my fault they are not invited. They cannot see they have damaged the relationship we had previously had.