Evening guests

Its difficult isnt it.

We are inviting some of our work friends to the day but have said their partners can come along to the evening.

In general with the evening invites we are doing "Plus 1" as it doesnt really cost anything to have extras in the evening.

Are all your work friends actually friends with one another also, least that way you could get away with no plus 1 as they could all come together, IYSWIM

I'm not doing plus ones. To be honest everyone we are inviting that has a partner, we know the partner too so it's not been an issue for us.

Yes I am inviting a good few work friends with their other halves for the daytime. The work colleagues for the evening all know one another, so it wouldn't be an issue of them being without company IFYSWIM. The thing is they would really need to stay the night, as the venue is some distance from them and I just thought if you had to stay, then you probably wouldn't come if you weren't with a partner.

The evening do is costing £18.00 a head so inviting the plus ones would be a good few hundred pounds extra.

The limit at night for me is 150 and it is around 16 quid ahead,my current work mates i will invite as a group (although we are due to merge with two other teams so it might be a bit of a nightmare ,old workmates i will invite with a plus one.

We are having 52 during the day and then can go up to 100 for the evening. My OH didnt want to invite any of his work mates - he works in a massive company, has only really started and to be honest from what I have heard about them I wouldnt really want any of them there. I work in a school and gave an open invite to everyone, we are getting married about an hour away from where we live and so people will have travel and stay in order to attend this means that although lots are coming and some are bringing their partners we wont reach our max number.

I have given workpeople a plus one, I just think if the boot were on the other foot, much as i like them would i really want to spend the weekend with them and only them seeing as you see them all week?

I not inviting work colleague's partners. The way I'm looking at it is that anytime they all go out together on a night out they're partners don't come, and while it's not a work night out I'm kinda viewing as that. Otherwise my numbers will get out of control .

Some of my close work friends i am inviting in the day but the ones that are invited to the evening are not having a plus one. Those extra 20 + people would cost too much and i don't really know the other halves anyway. They are all ok about it and will all come together anyway.

Im inviting 4 people that i work with, 2 of which are married so ive invited their wives, one is single so ive only invited her and the other one is seeing someone, i have just invited her and i figure that nearer the date I can say to bring him along if she wants to!

TO the evening people who have +1's we have invited. At the end of the day if you want the person there - and you think they wont come unless they can bring a +1 just invite them - its not like youll be paying much for them becuase the reality is that hardly anyone eats the buffet food! (well at least thats what ive found at other weddings ive been to xx

We're only paying £8.75 per head for evening buffet and as we're only having 18 guests at the ceremony/sit down meal, we are inviting work people's partner's & children. For my immediate cousin's we've invited plus one's/kids, but we have invited a few grown up children of my dad's cousins who we've only invited them & not any plus one's (they haven't any kids yet). My work have got open invites & have been told that if they wish to turn up alone, that's fine, if they wish to bring partner/kids that's fine, just as long as they tell us by rsvp date so we can confirm numbers with venue & caterer. My oh has put work colleague names on invite with either their partner's name or a 'plus guest', quite a few have kids but he hasn't put their names on (mainly due to space) but will let them know if/when they ask that children can come.

I guess it depends on how comfortable you feel with inviting people you don't know & how much your evening guests will be costing you. We're lucky in a way that we socialise quite a bit with people from both work places so we know their partners & kids.

This might be a Northern Ireland thing, but I've had no end of weddings whereby the number of evening guests that had replied and said they were attending was a lot less than expected. It would be interesting to hear from some OM around the country to see if they'd experienced similar, or other HIBs.

I would try to discretely find out who will becoming to the evening do - the fact of them maybe having to stay the night at the venue may put some evening guests off. A 'plus guest' is always handy to get your invited guest home on the night.

When I got Hitched we invited "+ partner"... our reception only had a cost of £7.40 per head so we didn't mind.

To be honest though, especially when we are talking about loads of male workfriends about, it takes their partner being there to keep them under control!