Fake Wedding?

Sending huge hugs to you - I am so sorry to hear about your granny, and what a horrible situation to have to face.

In your place, I wouldn't consider a fake wedding - however much you dress it up, it is lying to someone you love about something very serious. It wouldn't just be lying on the 'wedding day', but you'd have to keep that up until she died. I think you would find that emotionally very draining, and in time, might regret it. And if your granny should ever find out, I think she would be really hurt that you'd deceived her.

I'd only consider marrying 'for real' if that is what you feel is right for you at this time - rushing into a marriage before you are ready for it is not something that anyone who loved you would want - so however much your grandmother longs to see your wedding day, I'm sure she wouldn't want to see you marry before you are ready.

If you are sure that you and your boyfriend are right for each other, you could look to bring your engagement forward, so that your grandmother can see the ring etc. But if you are not ready for that commitment, perhaps instead, you could look to do something with your grandmother that could be part of your future wedding - e.g. go shopping for an item of jewelry you could wear on your wedding day, or maybe buy a plant that you could incorporate in the decor or use in your bouquet? That way, your grandmother would have been involved in part of your wedding planning - even if the actual wedding doesn't happen for years - and on your wedding day, you will have that memory.

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Thank you so much. That is such a lovely idea and something i think could be really special. Thank you so so much.

View quoted message Hi. I don’t know if you remember commenting or if you will even see this reply but I felt I needed to come back here. So nearly 6 years later, my partner and I are getting married and we have been together all that time.
I took your advice and my granny and I sat together and she picked out a bracelet that she liked and now I am going to wear that bracelet on my wedding day. It has been in the safe since the day I bought it.
My granny died just less than a month after I posted asking for advice so I was very lucky that you had made that suggestion and that I had that special moment with her. Thank you for being such a big part of my final memories with my granny and my wedding day now. You have helped to make this day even more special. Thank you Holly xxx