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Sam
Beginner July 2025 Kent

Family argument

Sam, 24 February, 2025 at 09:57 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 1
Wondered if anyone could offer any advice.
My better half’s aunt and cousin live in New Zealand and are flying over to our wedding. BH cousin has had a baby in Oct 24. Important info we also had a baby Dec 24. Since the start of our planning we have made it clear that unless invited and clearly specified, no children to be part of our day. Venue rules and don’t want children running around at the evening reception. Other family members (other cousin and my sister) have understood and arranged for their children to be picked up. We are also having our own baby picked up before the meal. However, aunt and cousin are demanding that their child is made an exception. Now telling us that they will put baby in a room at venue to be looked after. This has gone round in circles 5 times and we are now being told to accommodate despite holding ground. BH MOH also has a baby of similar age and will likely kick off if cousins baby is found to be at venue when we’ve told her that she can’t bring her baby.
Has anyone encountered similar?

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Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 5 March, 2025 at 20:53
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    I can understand why you don't want to have lots of babies at your wedding, but at the same time, I can see the cousin's point of view. It's not as if she is just popping a couple of hours up the road and will be back with her baby tomorrow - if she doesn't bring the baby with her to the UK, then she's going to be leaving it behind for several days. And if her mum is also a wedding guest, then she doesn't have the option of bringing the child to the UK and getting her mother to babysit either. Under those circumstances, I think having the baby stay in a room on site with childcare is a reasonable compromise.

    Assuming the MOH is not also travelling from another country, then she should understand the difference between her leaving her baby a few miles away and cousin leaving her baby the other side of the world! If you're worried about her reaction, it might be worth explaining beforehand why cousin's baby will be on-site but not attending the wedding.

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