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Beginner August 2023 Bedfordshire

Family drama

QueenT, 5 May, 2021 at 23:09 Posted on Honeymoons & Getting Married Abroad 0 2
Me and my partner have been together 7 years and have 2 children. My family have been find of him hardly talk to him unless they want something so when we decided to get married. They offered to help pay as they just got a big 60000 payout. Mum wanted me to have this lavish wedding but partner and I are very private and quiet keep ourselves to are ourselves so now as we keep mentioning the wedding none of my family says anything so keeps trying to put me off (we decided to do our wedding in carribean)



Mum keeps trying to add people to our list and when I say no she's offended and stops talking to me for days so now we've just decided to pay for wedding ourselves have ceremony and maybe have a dinner sometimes mum likes attention and if not on her she sulks and brings down the whole mood. Also my uncle who is so wonderful to me doesn't talk to my mum will be there scared an argument will break out.
So really now do I just get married on beach with ceremony and go to dinner with husband and children after or do I include my close family and invite (also many conversations have told me you can't go to the carribean and invite people and not feed them)

I'm so fed up with the whole wedding at this point but that would really upset family I do love and care about if I was just to elope. Any suggestions

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Latest activity by QueenT, 22 May, 2021 at 20:28
  • Melissab
    Dedicated June 2022 Surrey
    Melissab ·
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    If you’ve decided to pay for the entire wedding yourselves then your family have absolutely no say in how you choose to do it or who you invite. If you are inviting family members to the ceremony in the Caribbean, they may feel it’s a long way to travel just for the ceremony and not be invited to the meal, but again it is still your choice.


    If your mum likes attention, what about suggesting you pay for the small intimate Caribbean wedding, but she can pay for a reception/party back home if she wanted to and can invite whoever she wants?
    It’s sad the amount of posts I see on here where couples are having interference from family members. Ultimately, the day is about you two and no one else and you have to do what you are both happy with. If others don’t like it that’s their problem, not yours. You will never be able to make everyone happy, so don’t put yourself through the stress of trying x
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    Beginner August 2023 Bedfordshire
    QueenT ·
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    Thank you its been so stressful with so many demands we are now considered just eloping!
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