Family invites

Are your great aunts and uncles brother and sister or are they from opposite sides of your mum’s family? If they are siblings it may seem odd to them if only one of them gets an invite but if they are from opposite sides of the family it won’t matter. However there is also the monetary side and the venue numbers side which might both mean they can’t all come.


We ended up inviting my husband’s uncle to our wedding even though he hadn’t seen his uncle since his aunt Betty’s funeral seven years earlier. It turned out my husband’s auntie Betty and uncle Alex were also one of my bridesmaids great uncle Alex and auntie Betty. The first we knew was when Alex phoned his sister in law (my mother in law) who he hadn’t spoken to since Betty’s funeral either saying “I hear Lisa is going to be John’s bridesmaid”.

It is up to you, but I would saybitnmay cause issues and the others may feel upset by not being invited, that said if you don't see th them I probably wouldn't invite them. I had same issue as only wanted to invite one ofy cousins, I have 14 of th, soninnthe end I didn't and they are all coming to the evening as I personally can't be dealing with the family fallout I know will happen if I did invite just her. It is only 4 people so if your numbers and budget can accommodate it I would invite them

It's really tricky, we decided no aunts and uncles at all partly for this reason. If they were the only person coming on ether side of the families at this level, being treated like a "friend" invite rather than a "family" invite, you might just about get away with it... but from my experience if anyone not invited is likely to see the wedding photos/hear that someone of the same "category" as them is going then it could cause bad blood for years to come.

My FH wanted to invite his aunts and uncles out of family obligation (he likes them), my aunts and uncles I'm not so close to, but I am super close to my dad's cousins and wanted them there, but extending the family that far opened up a huge can of worms because I couldn't invite the cousins without the aunts and uncles, and if my cousins were there FH's cousins etc would need to be there... and before you know it there's no room on the guest list for friends! We decided to simply draw the line at grandparents as it's a much easier decision to hold firm on. Our wedding is quite small (50) so it wasn't like we had 300 people and chairs to fill either.