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RomanticGreenStationery29258, 14 May, 2021 at 12:41 Posted on Planning 0 1

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Hi, I have never used a forum before but I am feeling lost and have seen helpful advice on here before!

My wedding is 6 months away and I have now had a massive falling out with my mum and brother (who are practically my only family). I am struggling to see us being on good terms come the wedding day but I also don't think the wedding would be right without them, because I would have nearly no other family there and I don't want to deal with questions on my wedding day of why my mum and brother did not attend.

I am at the point where I want to cancel the wedding, but also feel like why should my partner and I lose out on the wedding we want!

I was wondering if anyone else has had similar issues and what you did. Thanks!

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Latest activity by LuxuriousGreen1994, 14 May, 2021 at 16:31

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LuxuriousGreen1994 · 14 May, 2021 at 16:31
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Family matters, especially at a wedding, are difficult and it can be really hard for others to understand a situation unless you are the one in it. Although you are hurting now, will you always feel this way? The issue you have with your mother and brother, is it fixable in time?
You say you can't see yourself getting married without them being present, then it is necessary to make the steps to try and mend the issue. Sometimes it is necessary to apologise - even though it might not be owed or our fault - to get the best from a situation. If you want them there then you may have to be the one that takes a leap of faith to fix things.
If they choose not to accept your apology or even to not come to your wedding, you have to remember the reason you want to get married in the first place (which I hope is because you are in love with your partner?). I promise in years to come you will not regret getting married to the person of your dreams. The ones that weren't there will be the people with regrets.
Please do what is right for you and remember your happiness - and your partners - is what should matter most on your wedding day. Good luck and I hope you find a resolution.
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