Father Daughter Dance - Father Deceased

Errm just don't have one. Many people don't bother anyway. I think having it with an uncle or mother would just draw attention to the fact that your Dad is no longer here.

Agreed with Barefoot, I am simply not having one and i have both of my parents..! Not many people actually have dad and daughter dances anymore...

I think it's really nice you want to do something in his honour - my only thought, is that you'd all end up spinning around in a big circle singing at each other. This might be exactly what you are thinking though, so if it is, then go for it.

I am not having a father/daughter dance; I'd never even heard of it before seeing Four Weddings USA. I love my dad and everything, but I'd just feel really silly and mushy dancing with him...not really for me I'm afraid.

Is there another way you could remember him? Maybe get your sister(s) to do a speech and mention him in that?

Thank you for your replies - I just find it so hard to decide if I want to do it or not.

I am not having any readings done during ceremony and I want it to be a day where people feel that they can talk about him, not that they need to avoid the topic. He may not be here anymore, but he is still a huge part of my life.

The ladies over on the wedding planning section would be more likely to help out.

Personally I'd probably skip it altogether.

Hi ibm,

My Dad is still here but very ill and not able to dance, I got married in July and after the first dance the DJ played my Dad's favourite song while I stood with him - had already primed a good number of couples to dance to it so it didn't feel awkward. Maybe have his favourite song played but not necessarily announce it - just have it as something for you.

My dad died two years before our wedding but I wouldn't have had a father/daughter dance anyway. I'm afraid I find them twee and my dad would have hated it.

We included him in our prayers in church and I proposed a toast to absent friends at the reception.

There didn't seem a need to labour the point. Those that knew him would spare a thought for him and those that didn't (ie my H's family) wouldn't be bothered anyway.

He is my Pa and always in my heart.

I had a father-daughter dance with my step-dad but it wasnt a traditional one, we rocked out to 'Sweet Child of Mine'.

I like the idea of playing one of his favourite songs and having a dance to it in his memory.

My dad is still alive but would've died on the spot if I'd have made him dance. I wouldn't worry about it...it's not something that anyone would notice the absence of. You can remember him in your own way...perhaps a photo of him pinned to your bouquet...then he's still coming with you up the aisle