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Joanne, 21 June, 2022 at 13:47 Posted on Planning 0 4

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Hi
Need some advice my getting married in 3 week on sorrento postponed twice due to covid 2 years ago we had 35-40 people but now have 14 people i have lost 3 bridesmaids out of 5 two of my closest freinds and my sister which is all down to money which we understand and of course upset but its on of them atm but my rents also cannot come because of money which iam upset about but im not very close to them.

But my dad is making my life hell he was fine with the wedding and was gonna come but decided 1 month ago he couldn’t afford to come he has now said that i should cancel my wedding 3 weeks togo because ive had denied him the chance to walk me dowe ile i havnt done anything wrong hes known about the wedding for 4 years and hasnt paid a penny towards it. If we cancelled it we would look loads of money so would guest who have already booked but he’s making my life hell and my fiance saying that we are selfish and upsetting him. He is also attacking my fiancés rents who cannot afford to go and have offered to pay for him to come of planing the wedding to suit them which isnt true.
Its making me sick and under more stress after the last two years and current flight cancellations im on edge last thing i need is a mental breakdown because of him
What should i do xx

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Latest activity by Katie, 22 June, 2022 at 10:21

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Joanne · 21 June, 2022 at 13:48
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Sorry my in law can afford to go xx
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Kayleigh · 21 June, 2022 at 16:16
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Just cut him off. It your wedding not his
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Charlotte · 22 June, 2022 at 10:07
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You have not denied him anything, he has had plenty of time to save and pay to come, and I appreciate everyone finances are different but as your Dad I would hope he would do everything he could to be at his daughters wedding, especially if it means so much to him to walk you down the aisle, so this is absolutely on him not you, he is an adult and responsible for his own choices. To be asking you to cancel the wedding is quite frankly ridiculous, and as for attacking your in laws, in honesty, he needs to grow up. As hard as it will be you need to call him out, tell him that you understand he is upset, but his behavior and demands are upsetting you and is he happy that this is the case? Explain that this is your day and if he cannot be happy and nice then you would rather he says nothing at all and respect your choices, you have offered to pay for him and he has declined so he needs to accept it as it is and stop with the nastiness. I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this so close to the day, but you have to try and ignore it and do what you want to do. I never get it when parents behave this way and have no idea about the stress and upset they cause their child. I hope you can find a way to sort it out.
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Katie · 22 June, 2022 at 10:21
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I genuinely can't believe that your dad would even suggest cancelling a wedding with 3 weeks to go, and when guests have already booked... I would suggest to him that you can cancel it, but only if he pays all of the guests and for the wedding loss in total.
Go ahead with your wedding. It's YOUR day and your family etc have had plenty of time to save/prepare for this, if they cannot make it due to money, that is their problem (which sounds rather selfish and blunt, however, they did know about this coming up!).
It'll be a fantastic day regardless, and Sorrento is beautiful, don't let this ruin it for you. Perhaps when you get home, you could have a small get together (either a small party or even BBQ - doesn't have to be expensive!) to celebrate your marriage?
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