Feel so awkward - opinions please!

I should also point out it is a general thing and ppl dont buy experiences they can contribute as little or as much as they want.... I didnt want anybody to feel like they had to spend a certain amount....

WHYYYYYY is it sooooo difficult.....

This is exactly what we did and u have written it pretty much the same. We set up a separate bank account and included this so people could transfer it also. You wording is lovely

We put exactly the same, although we made it sound less optional!

Sian, thanks so much for replying.... I dont know what it is but I keep thinking everyone opening there invites are thinking 'cheeky b*****ds! I really hope im wrong! lol xxx

the wording took me ages.... haha thanks for saying that xxx

what wording did you use hun? xx

We wrote this:

As we are already living together we have decided not to compile a traditional gift list. We are however heading off on our honeymoon to Mexico and any financial donations towards this would be gratefully received. Please do not feel obliged as it’s your company we want. You are welcome to make a deposit into the following Lloyds accounts, please include your name as a reference. Name: Sort Code: Account Number:

thats lovely sian :0) not long to go!!! how you getting on? xx

We just took out the bit about guests not having to bring anything and their presence being the most important thing. The sentence started with "if you wish to buy us a gift...". Its very to the point I know, but personally, I wouldn't dream of turning up at a wedding empty handed (esecially as we'll be forking out £85 pp!) and would probably be pretty peeved if someone did. But that's more my issue with manner than being money-grabbing, I felt that if we made it sound optional then we would only have ourselves to blame, when we are narked off because someone was rude enouh to turn up empty handed for a free day out. Anyway, I think it's fairly standard these days that people will suggest a financial contribution to their honeymoon etc, rather than a gift list or nothing at all, so I no longer think it's considered rude, but the norm.

I think u r right about it being the norm now. thanks for ur help xxx

I think you did it the best possible way.

You will always get some of the older generation who won't necessarily like it, they might get you a present instead. (Thats what my mum does so imagine how weird it is for me trying to do a gift list etc when she thinks they're rude lol)

We have had a good planning weekend this week, got suits done, met with venue to discuss times and menus etc... Hair trial done, made my own personalised hangers, made hip my cup cake cake holders and even had time to do some honeymoon clothes shopping

I think what you have written is fine and also Sian's text is also good too. I think it is always awkward asking people to part with their money and there will always be someone who isn't happy doing it! The important thing is it is your wedding so it is what you want that matters - if you don't ask you won't get, but what is important is the way you ask too!

Thanks so much xxx