Hey everyone , I’m fairly new here I joined up earlier this year when I got engaged but I’ve mostly been a reader rather than a writer of posts. I made the decision to write a post today in the hope that it might make me feel better.
Planning my wedding is just making me feel so hurt and money. I don’t have a huge circle don’t get me wrong and there’s been the usual stress along the way. I’m 29 and I’ve lived with my partner for 4.5 years before he proposed, so I get that people knew we were in it for the long term, but I’m the eldest of 4 and the first to get married and he’s a middle child but also first to get married and nobody seems to be exited for us.
i have a MOH who I’ve known since I was 4 and were supposed to be best friendss, you’d think it was her wedding with the dramas she’s thrown up about her dress (she changed her mind 3 months after getting it and decided she didn’t like it), she came to my second bridal appointment to see my dress but didn’t come to any fittings, I live in a different town but she drives and it’s only 20 minutes away, she’s single, still lives with her parents, doesn’t work and has nothing but time on her hands so it’s not like she has other commitments. It’s hit me harder today because I’ve had my last fitting (on my own again) and my dress is rubbing me at the top I read on here about body glide so I’ve ordered some and asked if she’d come over one day so she could fasten me into my dress so that I can have a trial of wearing it with the body glide to make sure it doesn’t rub she said she’d come ‘if she’d got time.’
I cant really blame my sisters who are my other two bridesmaids for not really getting involved as one is only 14 and the other is 22 but a student who lives a 4 hour train journey away. But I did feel like they’d be more excited for me. Even my mum is more focused on who is attending that she doesn’t like/doesn’t want to speak to rather than offering to help or the fact she wants me to lend her money for her outfit and hotel room when we’re already struggling with money ourselves with saving for the wedding. My auntie and some of my friends who I’ve known a lot less time are excited for me but they all live in different parts of the country so although they offer help they can’t actually do much for me as it’s the in person sort of stuff I would have liked, like coming with me when I go shopping etc.
Ivr literally planned the whole thing myself while working two jobs (one of which is my own business), studying my final year with the open university and taking care of the house etc. h2B does what he can like driving me to hair and makeup trial but then sometimes he whinges about having to do that and I just think does nobody care about me enough to actually want to help me with this wedding at all? Like just to take a bit of the stress off for me. I know that sounds like I’m wallowing but the last few weeks as the wedding grows closer (it’s 3 weeks away) I feel like I’m just feeling lower and lower 
any advice or just some encouraging words that it will be ok and I’ll enjoy the day would be very welcome!
Leonie xx
