Feeling Sad and Lonely

Aw, I'm sure they will take plenty of pictures to send you ;-)

Awww I'm sure they will take plenty of photos.

Ask them to do a photo diary for you. I know it may be a bit late now but sure they will include you has much as possible

Oh I'm sorry - it's a long way and not nice to feel isolated. Do you have any friends out there? Perhaps tell someone how you're feeling and organise weddingy days - do they have wedding fairs or anything there? You just need an injection of a little bit of wedding attention to get you back on the straight and narrow. Even if you crack yourself open a bottle of bubbles and get on facetime with them for a bridesmaid cat walk show!?

They'll all be with you soon x

I don't have anything to add but sending you a *hug* and agreeing with Sillywrong's idea of facetime and bubbles.

I thought this too, thats a lovely idea.

sorry your lonely *internet hugs*

Sorry to hear that you are feeling left out.

Is there anyway to be there without being there? Like them sending pictures, face time, Skype, that sort of thing?

The thing I have found good is Pinterest, my best friend and I are sharing a board and we both save pictures that we think are good, it's good to show each other our ideas and also it can be quite exciting seeing the pins that the other person has put up.

Hope it becomes more positive for you.

Thanks everyone. I've told them that I'll be staying up tonight, so no time is too late to skype me. They're both a bit technophobic, so hopefully they'll work out how to do it from their phones! I've decided I'm going to put myself in a weddingy space while I wait for their call by making my invitations. Love the idea of the bubbles, but I might give that a miss as I don't want to end up making wonky invites!

I really felt for you as I read this, but had the same thoughts as others. With technology these days you can be there. If they use Skype, face time or even just a simple video call you can see what's going on and be part of the decision making process. All they need is a smart phone and/or a tablet like an iPad. If you can't set it up for tomorrow, could you suggest they wait a couple of days maybe so that you can set it up. I'm sure they'd love it if you could be there albeit a virtual you too.

As a minimum they could text you photo's as they're looking at and trying dresses on so you can have your input. I know it's not always cheap to send pics etc - but if they can get onto wifi then it's free. What's app is good for android/iPhones - not for iPad though grrr.

Pammy, thought I would share with you about whatsapp. I love it, the kids take the mick out of me because on my status on whatsapp. "I only have whatsapp to send free photos" haha.

If other people don't have I phones your right it can be expensive. Whatsapp solves all my problems. ?

I completely understand this as my OH is exactly the same. I have asked him for input into music and readings but he just rubbishes everything I come up with and then makes stupid suggestions (eg highway to hell as our walking out song). He couldn't be less interested in it all if he tried.

I've recently moved to London for work and so whilst I have had a couple of dress shopping trips back up north with my friends the vast majority I'm doing alone. And its hard. There are so many decisions to make and sometimes it would be nice for someone to give me a steer.

Sending you weirdy internet hugs - and flash all your stuff so we can help you get excited!

I just had the first message to say they've met and are having coffee. Appointment number 1 is in 30 mins. H2B think I'm bonkers for waiting up, but I can't help it. Booked the photographer today and had an e-mail to say my shoes have been despatched, so I'm on a happy up-swing!

Cinnamon, we can be wedding widows together!!

How do you flash pics on here?

Hope your feeling a little better about it now.

Flashing-the strip at the top next door but one of the smiley face to the left looks like negatives click on that.

By the way where in NZ are you? I spent some time there and have some friend there (some I made there, another of my friends emigrated out there) in Wellington.

OH is always on about us moving out to NZ!

So glad you're feeling better! I hadn't commented before because I felt all I could do was send you completely inadequate hugs!! I hope the catwalk goes well and you get some gorgeous photos of some beautiful dresses x

Thanks all. Ended up with wine, My Best Friends Wedding on DVD, sitting up till 3am and intermittent live Facebook chats with photo's. It was really lovely. The new drama is that it turns out the colour I really wanted doesn't suit my BM at all!!!! So having a re-think and will do take 2 sometime soon!!

SillyWrong, I am in Waihi, at the top of the Bay of Plenty and the bottom of the Coromandel. It's gorgeous. Don't regret moving here at all, just feel a long way from home at times!

Isn't that where that big festival thing happens at new year!?

I know you feel like you're missing out a bit on the whole planning 'experience' but it is your planning experience - a bit different but no less worthy than anyone elses. I've done a lot online because my BM and mum are in Scotland (she came down here to do the dress shopping but now it's arrived it's been sent to my mum's and she's trying it on there tomorrow - must have a chat with her about skype beforehand!) We asked our ushers via twitter and facebook because they're all over the place too (London and Edinburgh), and I've found the ladies on here to be brilliant at squealing in all the right places!

So, after all that I think we may have found the dress...........on ebay! The neckline and shape of the straps is almost identical to my dress, and it's a lace up back which will mirror mine too.

I'm a touch nervous about buying online, you can never really be sure of the quality but the seller has great feedback and has a solid looking returns policy so fingers crossed. Not sure on colour. I was hoping for Sage, but BM prefers Teal. she has agreed to buy both and send me pics of her in them so we can decide together which suits her best. Bless her heart, she's a fab friend.

This made me chuckle, uk-kiwi and NcNZ, it's like a BM swap, I love it! The all encompassing Hitched provides for all brides in all circumstances

I understand how you must feel too uk-kiwi, and NcNZ!! It's hard when you're on the other side of the world to those most important to you. But you are right, technology is great these days, and I'm so glad everything worked out for you on the day uk-kiwi!!

Gosh, there seem to be a few of us either in NZ or from NZ here! ?

Love them Could you tell me who the ebay seller is please. Might have a look for my BMs

Hi Pammy..

Can't see the pictures on my above post anymore. Anyway, the link to the particular listing is here:

https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/200908503167?ru=http://www.ebay.co.uk/sch/i.html?_sacat=0&_from=R40&_nkw=200908503167&_rdc=1

The Seller is my_angel_star

I haven't done much browsing as my BM found the perfect dress straight off, but I'm sure they will have a few nice styles.