Female usher issues

I'm not sure if I've got this right, but are you paying for outfits for your bridesmaids and your male ushers? If so, why would you not be paying for your female usher as well? I may have misread your post though!

I think it would be fair to pay for her outfit and shoes, but the hair and make-up is more difficult. Unless you want her to have a specific style then I think I'd suggest that she sort her own out.

Is she wearing a bm dress or something completely different? If bm dress then I'd be inclined to give her jewellery to match the bms - you would presumably give that as a gift on the day, so would be entirely appropriate to give to the usher as a gift too.

We had a female usher and we paid for everything. we spent more on her than on the male ushers but it didn't feel wrong- it felt totally right.

i think you need to spend at least what you are on the male ushers, ergo if her dress is less than suit hire, the rest of the money to make up the difference goes towards hair etc

I agree with miss winter - definitely work it out to match what you're doing for the ushers - not the BMs

I got married in Sydney, so maybe the role of an usher is different there, but we had 1 male and 1 female. They handed out order of the day, helped seat guests, gave out blowing bubbles & collected the pew ends.

I provided a buttonehole/corsage for them, but never considered providing their outfit, hair, shoes etc. Maybe they play a larger role in the UK? I'd suggest if you are providing for the male usher, it should be the same for the female one, but not hair/make-up.

Thankyou all for your helpful responses! We are paying for the make ushers suit,but obviously he wouldn't need hair and make up paid for,hence why I was going to either pay for that or pay for the outfit.I think I agree that it would be fairest if we just paid for both outfits for both ushers,male and female,and I ask her to sort her own hair and makeup.I have ideas for the bridesmaids (although I am still keen for them to have input in these) but I am happy for our female usher to style herself how she wants

i think the idea about giving her some jewellery too as a present on the morning of the wedding is a great one- will definitely do that

thanks again for all your suggestions!

Alice x