Hi, we are getting married in May 2024 and just looking for thoughts on my bridal party as fiancé wants me to have his niece, who will be 4, but I am not keen.
I am planning to have my best friend as MoH, my sister and two close cousins. My fiancé is having a best man but no ushers/groomsmen.
Fiancé’s niece is the daughter of his sister, and is currently 2. Fiancé and his sister (M) see each other a few times a year at big family birthdays etc and Christmas, but never proactively arrange to meet up and never chat in between. M is nice enough and we get along but we’re not close. She is extremely difficult to contact - never answers the phone and takes several days to read messages - and unorganised. As an example she recently arranged a big surprise birthday party for their father which was cancelled at the last minute due to self isolation (his), but didn’t tell everyone, so many guests still turned up. This party was also arranged only a couple of weeks before the big birthday, so consequently was very far away from where we all live, and clashed with his big work night out.
I have seen the niece maybe 4 times in total, and have never been able to hold her to interact with her as her grandad (my fiancé and M’s dad), literally will not put her down. I therefore wouldn’t say my fiancé is close to her.
He is not bothered about M being a bridesmaid but I think if I had the niece, I would have to have M, as M would need to liaise with me over the dresses etc and would need to be there to look after her child whilst we were all getting ready, so would be odd not to include her. But including them both would put me at 6 bridesmaids, and I am mostly worried that M is so difficult to contact. Also my best friend has a little girl just a bit younger and I am not including her although we are much closer, so if I had niece I would also want to have the other little girl.
My fiancé’s main reasoning for including the niece is that “she will look cute in the dress” but she can still wear a cute dress!
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