Hi my lovely's!
I use the word 'drama' in place of not having a better word.
My Fiancee (31f) wants to invite her brothers, both married and one with 2 kids.
The problem is the middle brother and his wife haven't spoken to her parents in years, there was a massive falling out and they haven't even met their grandkids! The oldest brother is also starting to back away from her mum.
It's gotten to the point where my fiancee and her parent's mental health have suffered. But she loves her brothers and nephews and want them to come, but the fear is they'll say "well if she's going, I'm not!".
The issue seems to be more about mum, as they've both tried to talk to dad and excluded their mum. I know most of the details because it all kicked off years ago. I don't know how to support her through this, it's her biggest stressor about the wedding and she's struggling so much already. There is no way we're not inviting the mum, she was excluded from both the brothers' weddings so it feels even more important to us to have her at ours to bring her some joy.
Has anyone else had a similar issue?
