Finally postponed our wedding ?

Hi Sassy

Firstly, well done for being brave and taking such a tough decision! Like other posters have mentioned, postponing your special day is a bit like grieving, with all the stages that entails, like disbelief, anger, frustration and eventually, acceptance.

We've already postponed once, from last September to this, but frankly, I think now that we should have postponed by longer. We're trying to stay positive and do little bits of wedding "stuff", - anything that will keep and doesn't have the date on it!

We've given ourselves a "decision deadline" for the beginning of May to see whether or not we can go ahead as planned. Bit scared of actually sending out invites, as the situation could change at any time!

My top tip for your original date - make sure you and your partner do something special and meaningful on what would have been your wedding day. I had t-shirts made on Etsy which we wore for our would-have-been wedding day -(Almost Wife/Almost Husband with our orginal date crossed through and the new one below) we went to Portmeirion and had a lovely time. I also wore my wedding earrings and my side tiara, total over-the-top glam with the t-shirts and jeans, but it made me feel better.

Much love,

Ali xx

Hi Ali.
It's such a weird feeling like I said sad angry but now relief. I've had way too many sleepless night worrying about will it or won't it go ahead. We have family travelling from Portugal so if it went ahead for this year chances are they won't be able to attend. That's a great idea about doing something special to make the day, we both kept our time of work so hopefully we can have a few days away. I hope your September wedding goes perfectly for you. X

We postponed from 14th August 2021 to 14th May 2021. I feel like we're in limbo tbh. The not knowing (again) is destroying me! It's getting expensive postponing as out hotel wants to charge increases per person due to the change in year, and every time we move the date we have to put another deposit down for the hotel AND the registrar. We don't know whether to postpone again, just cancel until our full family can attend (we only want 30 people!!) or to just say f-it and go ahead with limited numbers. I will 100% be asking the hotel for a reduction in price though.

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Hey Nicola!! I am now a May2021 Bride after postponing from March 2021. We are hopeful that by May we can at least have the 20 people! Hopefully next week with the Scottish Government and Boris releasing a road map it can give us all a clearer idea!!

Would you consider postponing again, or are you happy to go ahead and just get married?

View quoted message Honestly it all depends on how many people we are allowed. I have set out a group called COVID 15, which is the 15 essential people for us. It wouldn't be ideal but they are parents, step parents, siblings and children. If they allow 30, we only wanted 29 anyway for the ceremony so that would change nothing. If it is 15> and no reception I think we'll postpone again. It's just so HARD! Fingers crossed Boris is good!

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I know your right - the choices are so hard!!! That is the same for us, we are only wanting 20 which doesn't seem like a lot when most plan their big days to have 50+. But I hope that next week we can even get an idea of whats to come for us Brides.

We delayed sending out our invites for our first date as we were considering postponing, and now I just want to send them out asap because I am so in love with them lol!!

View quoted message It can't come quick enough tbh!


We sent out first and second invites because I made them and was super excited to get married! We booked everything in 2019 so had no idea all this was coming! ? I was perhaps too organised!
The one positives of this is definitely that I've learnt patience to wait for the things I want!

Well, here's a spanner in the works!

We're in the process of postponing our wedding yet again, and again by another 12 months. I really can't see how weddings can go ahead as planned if we don't have any clear plan for lifting lockdown.

I am not prepared to have a day where people either are worried to come and then not enjoy themselves, or decline outright. Also, I can't see the logic of not allowing wedding receptions (if the same rules apply as last year), yet you can go to a restaurant and eat at a socially distanced table, where there are more than 30 people in the premises.

The rule last year limited weddings to 30 including any staff, with no speeches, singing, mingling or dancing. Not my idea of a wedding!

I know it’s matter of preference but I really wouldn’t postpone until at least Monday when you hear more. There are so many protests for things to return to normal for weddings by summer and already talks of holidays abroad etc. I may be being overly positive and I may feel awful on Monday but the numbers are dropping every day and we are only Feb. I’m due to get married end of August and I’m feeling positive I’ll be allowed a semi normal wedding x

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