Finding someone to marry us…

Hi Tom,

It's worth speaking to a celebrant as you can probably pick and choose what you want to include. As it's not legal, there's no real requirement to have any of it included so i'm sure you can chat with them and point out what you would and wouldn't want.

Good luck!

"We’re open to making it personal by writing our own vows, picking readings etc and we would like to incorporate more traditional elements like the do the usual ‘to have and to hold bit’ but some of what I’m reading on celebrant’s websites seems a bit out there for us. Sorry to sound so boring!"

As halta has said just speak to the celebrant about how you would like the ceremony to go. Dont be put off by what you see on celebrants websites as IMO its part of their remit to be "out there" to some extent as its sort of the reason people go for one in the first place. So in their PR info they would be likely to lean to the more "wacky" (as you say ) options of their service. But the whole point of using one is to be able to tailor it to exactly what you want.

Its a bit like photographers never showing family groups as they don't want to give the impression that they are a photographer that does lot of boring groups. Ever noticed how almost all photographers say they shoot in a documentary, informal, relaxed style, - well of course they do, if they said they shoot traditional groups then they would not get a look in. But in reality almost all weddings will want at least a handful of groups at some stage. Just like the celebrant in that most just want a nice personal ceremony with maybe some fun.