Flower Etiquette - HELP PLEASE!!

I was the same. Were having, my bouquet, bridesmaids flowers, my mum and OH mum a corsage which they will choose to match their outfits, pageboys BM FOB FIL and Usher will all have a matching button hole.

My mum mentioned that my grandparents may want to wear button holes too. I've left that up to them to organise else it will spiral out of control.

I've got button holes for my step dad, dad, FIL and groomsmen and obviously groom

my mum, step mum, MIL and grandma will have a corsage

This is something I'm arguing with my mum over at the moment!

I was planning on buying both mums a corsage - the men in the bridal party buttonholes, as well as the father of the groom.

My mum says I shouldn't be buying the mother and father of the groom, and it's nothing to do with me if they wear one or not!? I thought I was being nice and was planning on asking MIL what colour she'd like. Not because I have to, but because I want to make them feel included. Practically though it's not going to be feasable as I won't be seeing them before the service so that's fine.

Ofcourse my mum will insist I get HER one!! Over that I'm only going to be getting the men who I've bought outfits for (as buttonhole is part of that) so my brother (who is giving me away) and the Groom and Best Man will be the only ones.

Soooo glad you guys posted about this!!! I had no idea about corsages matching outfits, rather than wedding colours!! *off to call florist*

Hi - your Mum is right. Mum's corsages should match their outfit or be in a neutral colour. A corsage is more special than a buttonhole and is normally worn by the MOB and the MOG. It is only ladies that have corsages. Men wear buttonholes but the Groom wears one slightly more special than the other guys so he stands out on the photographs. I've attached photos of the differences so you can see what I mean:-

Mothers/Mum-in-law's corsage which may be worn either pointing downwards as in the photo on the left or right hand side of the wearer or upright if preferred:-

Groom's buttonhole:-

Standard buttonhole worn by the Best Man, FOB, FOG and ushers if having any:-

All buttonholes are worn on the left of the wearer. It's no longer tradition to provide buttonholes for all the guests but this is purely up to budget and choice. Hope that helps.

I'd ordered them for mine and OH parents - but to be done same as ushers etc? I.e. our bridal colours.

Oh no- ANOTHER thing I've not done properly! Seriously, do you have to get flowers for the mums too?

So far I've ordered my bouquet, 2 BMs bouquets, a buttonhole for my dad / best man / groom / father-in-law...hadn't even thought about the mums!

Dammit.

Generally

Bride, Maid Of Honor and bridesmaids all get bouquets.

Groom, BM and groomsmen/ushers all get boutonnieres.

Mothers of the bride and groom get either a pinned or wrist corsage.

Fathers of the bride and groom get a boutonniere

Ring Bearer gets a boutonniere Flower girl either gets flowers for her hair or maybe a small basket with flowers in it. some of them carry a ball of flowers.

If you have any grandparents,it is customary, but not necessary, to give the grandmothers a corsage as well and the grandfathers a boutonniere.

You don't need flowers for anyone else, so you don't have to worry about brothers and sisters.

Don't let it get to you, think about your budget.

Best of luck. xxx

I don't even know what one of these is!??

I didn't realise you had to get mothers these either until MIL 2 B insisted she has an orchid, so now I will order my own mum a lily one as that is her fav flower as a surprise. She is as rubbish as me with traditions so will hopefully be nicely surprised by the gesture.

Thanks for all the replies, this certainly clears things up. Also thanks to the ladies who are as clueless as me - certainly helps make me feel better! I'm meeting with the florist at the weekend so will have to speak to the MIL as I have no idea what she's planning to wear or what her floral preferences are!

Have a look at the link below

https://secretsfloral.com/sherri-anne-and-atibas-wedding-a-modern-classic/sa_0161_ps_resized/

It's just the American term for a buttonhole - don't worry!

I ordered bouqets - for me and sis, Corsarge in my colours for either mums and grandmothers( i am having white roses so neutral) then button holes for dads, groom and Bestie and Grandad...

so think we are good?

When my brides order buttonholes and corsages, they have always been for their parents and the grooms parents. Sometimes they stretch to nan's and grandads. They sometimes also have them to double up as gifts as my buttonholes/corsages can be kept as a keepsake.

When my brides order buttonholes and corsages, they have always been for their parents and the grooms parents. Sometimes they stretch to nan's and grandads. They sometimes also have them to double up as gifts as my buttonholes/corsages can be kept as a keepsake or even personalised to the persons hobbies/interests.

I hadn't even thought about corsages! They look lovely though...OH mum will be well chuffed if we get her one I'm sure

Sooo glad you posted this!!!! I'd never even heard of corsages for the my mum and MIL!!!! Arggh feel like I've got no clue with all this wedding lark! Everytime I think everything I've thought of everything there's something else I've totally forgotten!!

This is a really useful supplier post - you should see the scrap the TOGS are having on the post started by a Bride trying to work out where to seat her TOG for dinner!