Hi all,
So we are planning on eloping abroad and taking two friends with us, but now I am having second thoughts on my best friend who I've known for about 15 years. When I announced getting engaged she congratulated over text, and when we met up after I arrived back from holiday, there was no mention of it from her, no card, no gift, which my OH was really surprised at given she got me a birthday card and gift. I took her with me to the wedding show yesterday and she had no interest in anything, she was walking behind me most of the time texting other friends on her phone. Watching the catwalk she couldn't stop mocking all the dresses being shown. When I asked for her opinion on a wedding ring style, or dress at one of the stands, she just kept talking about what she would or wouldn't wear for her wedding (which she is merely fantasizing about yet talking about as though it is happening right now), and completely dismissed anything I said. We left after only being there for an hour and a half, as she kept acting like a child and I was totally fed up by that point.
When I mentioned that I had seen some dresses online and would be going to book appointments at boutiques for trying them on, she would say "yes you can try some on, but I am going to be getting fitted for wedding dresses and I want to take photos". I am totally surprised and upset by all of this, even after explaining to her that only the bride tries on these dresses and its about me as it's my wedding day, she still would go on about what she wants for her dream wedding!
I want to book some appointments soon, but now I am really afraid to invite her to come along as she would likely make it all about her, and not even give me an honest opinion on what I'm trying on. I have two other friends I was going to invite to come anyway, but do I just not invite her and not say anything, or try to talk to her (though it seems she generally does not listen or take on board anything I say). I don't want to upset her, but at the same time I don't want to take someone dress shopping with me if she is simply going to ruin it! I'm also having second thoughts on inviting to the wedding (we haven't formally invited her or the other person yet, she just made that assumption), because all I'm getting off her is that she "can't wait to take instagrammable photos"!
Any thoughts please, if anyone has been in a similar situation, really not sure what to do. Thanks x
