Fussy eaters

One of his mates who agreed with him already said to the two of us that he thought the menu was posh and fussy. I said to OH afterwards wtf, does this man only eat McDonalds or something? It's not effing 'posh or fussy' and OH said to him have the pork, you'll like that. So he didn't pander to him and say ok well we'll have something else made for you. It's just this woman, like you've all said, she wraps men around her little finger and they don't even know she's doing it.

For my part, I've deleted her number and I won't be telling her she can have anything else and I'm sure he will forget so if we don't get an RSVP back, I will either assume she isn't coming or I will pick the food myself and her and her husband can have the veggie option for main and be done with it.

I was thinking for their favours, I should get a tiara and a crown for them both... lol

Well I hope he does forget. Don't bring it up. If he asks say you have said she would prefer chicken. That's not saying they have agreed to do it is it? Oops mix up on the day lol. Definately get her a tiara I would. Or princessBarbie.

What I don't understand is why he panders to her and yet not to anyone else.

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The 'dog whistle' theory (as horrible as that name is) is so true. Thankfully I don't know anyone like this right now but in the past there have been a few of these girls around. Your idea about leaving it to him sounds like the best way forward. xx

She basically said we won't eat, we'll just come to the ceremony and evening as we don't like the food and he said don't be silly, I'm sure they can do something else to which she said well don't go out of your way, it's ok I know the chef there and they did it for me so don't go out of your way, i'll call them myself and sort something different for us so as not to cause you any hassle. So she played the oh look, I'm being so helpful card. He truly believes it's not pandering and says that if we can cater for gluten free etc, why can't they make something else for her and husband. I said why did we bother doing a menu if we're just going to start giving people other meals. At what point do you say no? And you can't compare an allergy to fussiness. He thinks I'm being difficult because it's her and doesn't believe I would be like that over anyone else. I said yes I would, and have you noticed no one else has asked, only bloody her!

So yeah, in his mind he's going well it's a hotel with a restaurant, if we didn't have exclusive use of it the kitchen would be cooking other meals, so why can't they? It's ridiculous but he won't back down over it as he sees no wrong in asking. He said he would ask himself. My reply was he will not, if it's anything we are attending together, I would be mortified with him if he did! Wish we hadn't bothered with options now and just said state if you're veggie or have any allergies. I bet though if we did, she would have asked him what we were having and still done the same anyway!

You're right. She will still complain even if you swop pork for chicken. It's those strange posh veg she will object to. I wouldn't be changing anything. Stuff her and hubby I'm afraid. And if I did swop their meals it would be to beans on toast! Showing her up is the only swop I would be prepared to make. Then say yes you discussed it with them and suggested chicken but it's not just the meat but the veg as well that needs changing however it needs to be a plain and non fussy meal.

what about a jar of baby food as a favour?

I think I'd have slapped my H by this point. His blatant refusal to understand that this isn't how wedding breakfasts work is extremely frustrating. I do realise that it isn't worth falling out over really but...argh.

It is beyond frustrating, which is why I said I don't want to know about her any more!

Love the idea of a jar of baby food as a favour, perhaps butternut squash baby food to p*ss her off lol

Get a bridesmaid to put the butternut squash baby food in her bag on the day or it appear at her place at some point during the day lol.

I would want it on the floor so she slips. Bye bye.

Woah! I've just sat and read through this (rather epic) thread and Oh. My. God! I couldn't even find a venue that did choices, it was one size fits all!

A. I'd be super p**sed at my fella if he reacted this way. I'd be disgusted that he wasn't supporting me, and we'd be having words (by this point angry, shouty words)

B. This girl is clearly a manipulative cowbag and needs putting in her place

C. Do not, under any circumstances, change the menu for her! Let her have the veggie option. There are 2 other courses, and probably evening nibbles and cake too, she definitely won't starve

D. I'd be questioning your OH's continued friendship with this woman tbh, at the very least as you say I'd be making sure I didn't have to see her again

Urgh, some people!

I don't understand the friendship either, but she seems to be mainly friends with men. I think she loves the attention, probably makes her feel good about herself. She's said to my OH that she misses all the wedding planning etc and that she's been feeling deflated now it's all over... well that's really not my problem. Start organising a birthday party or something, but stay away from my wedding organising thank you very much!