Future mil drama

Hi,

Do you get along with your future mother-in-law? Are you willing to possibly create a problem out of this as she might get offended if you raise the subject and have a problem with it. Not saying that the situation is right, just trying to get a better understanding.

Have you got everything book for your wedding next year or just have a date in mind? If you have not booked your venue yet are you guys willing to move your date in case that your MIL does not want to? Have they got their ceremony booked for next year? Why did they choose exactly 4 weeks before your wedding? Will they be having a celebration or is it just going to be the ceremony in the registry office? Have you sat down with your fiance to discuss this situation and how both of you feel about it? I suggest disguising with your fiance and see how he also feels about it. Then definitely sit down with your future in laws and have a conversation about this. Ask nicely if they can possibly reschedule and have it earlier if they have not booked yet. If anything it will be more expensive to have it next year as prices go up each year. So if it is a big issues for both you and your fiance then do suggest again that they move up their ceremony.

Your MIL getting married a month before your own wedding shouldn't cause a problem at all. While the wedding tends to be all-consuming for the bride and groom for several weeks beforehand, for everyone else, it's pretty much just about the one day. Even if they are taking a honeymoon immediately after their own wedding, they should be back in plenty of time for yours.

I don't think there has to be any underhand reason at all for MIL getting married a month before you. But even if there is, the best thing to do is to ignore it. If she's getting married then for good reasons, then it would be rude to ask her to change the date. If she's doing it just to try to annoy you, why let her know she's succeeded?